Feel rough when I stay at new boyfriends

[Graceful5454]

We've been dating 3 months and I spend a couple of nights a week at his. I just always feel like crap. I don't sleep well. I often feel my stomachs uncomfortable. Why is it you always have wind when you are at someone else's house. I always feel hungover and headachy. Is this normal? Love spending time with him but it's exhausting me for some reason.

He's gone to the shop and I'm currently lying on his bed feeling sleepy and the omelette he made me for breakfast seems to have just made me feel worse lol.

First thing that pops into my head is to check his boiler etc is up to date with servicing. Look up carbon monoxide poisoning!!!!!

I don't want to scaremonger but the 'hungover and headachy' feeling is worrying. Does he have a carbon monoxide alarm?

What's different between his house and yours? It could be just that you're eating heavier meals/ drinking more or less ventilation/ open windows.

I'd open the windows. Has he got a carbon monoxide monitor?

If there is a gas supply does he have a carbon monoxide detector? Doesn't explain your stomach but would the headache & sleepiness.

Possibly the water supply/pipes for your stomach issues.

Cross post but a general consensus on carbon monoxide!

@CoffeeBeansGalore

If there is a gas supply does he have a carbon monoxide detector? Doesn't explain your stomach but would the headache & sleepiness.

Possibly the water supply/pipes for your stomach issues.

It actually does effect the stomach too.

You’re not suspecting he might be drugging your food/drink, are you?

www.nhs.uk/conditions/carbon-monoxide-poisoning/

If not carbon monoxide, could it be to do with drinking alcohol, eating different foods and/or staying up late?

Does he stay at yours?

Can always count on MN to be dramatic, poisoning or drugging! Couldn’t possibly be staying up late drinking more alcohol and eating take away 🙄

I’d get a carbon monoxide monitor for his place ASAP too. You can’t be too careful about these kinds of things.

@TurnUpTurnip

Can always count on MN to be dramatic, poisoning or drugging! Couldn’t possibly be staying up late drinking more alcohol and eating take away 🙄

Dramatic!? Op asked for advice, states clear symptoms of carbon monoxide poisoning....and we are dramatic for warning her of that. Yeah ok

Yeh along with someone suggesting he is drugging her 🤦🏻

I thought carbon monoxide but BF would be ill if he lives there.
Too much spicy food later than normal eating time?

Can always count on MN to be dramatic, poisoning or drugging!

I got the feeling the op was hinting at something else, without actually coming out and saying it. Why mention the omelette making her feel worse? Maybe that’s at the back of her mind, even if highly unlikely.

If it was carbon monoxide poisoning, it would be affecting her BF as well - especially as he lives there full time! Honestly, MN is full of the dramatics sometimes

It's far, FAR more likely to be because OP isn't sleeping properly. I always feel nauseous and headachy if I've not had enough sleep.

Yet she put lol after it? If you thought it was something sinister why would you laugh? As someone else said if it was carbon monoxide he would be ill as well....

In a slightly less dramatic note... I always feel a bit shit like this at the start of a new relationship. I put it down to adrenaline and feeling a bit nervous slowing down the digestive system. This us made worse by drinking more alcohol, eating richer food, and not feeling able to fart/shit as regularly as at home. If you have spent so much time trying not to fart that even when you get to the loo you can't relax enough to let it all go. So feeling bloated and crap.

Can you get some deflatine and discreetly take some after eating?

My thoughts were CO poisoning or something he's giving her that's not agreeing with her.

If its not CO is there anything there you could be allergic to?

@OverByYer

I thought carbon monoxide but BF would be ill if he lives there. Too much spicy food later than normal eating time?

When I met my dh he'd only put his bloody heating on when I'd go to stay. Always was a tight arse lol

How clean is his place?

I always had a slightly dodgy stomach after eating at the ex MILs. Put it down to lack of cleanliness.

I always feel shit when my partner shares my bed. I don’t sleep properly I feel like he steals my air 🤦🏻‍♀️🙈 I really hate sharing my bed and often think about being single because of it!

Are you drinking plenty of water to re hydrate after sex?

Does he complain of it too? While I think people are right to flag up CM poisoning, it's unlikely to be that unless you both have it.