Feel rough when I stay at new boyfriends

[Graceful5454]

We've been dating 3 months and I spend a couple of nights a week at his. I just always feel like crap. I don't sleep well. I often feel my stomachs uncomfortable. Why is it you always have wind when you are at someone else's house. I always feel hungover and headachy. Is this normal? Love spending time with him but it's exhausting me for some reason.

He's gone to the shop and I'm currently lying on his bed feeling sleepy and the omelette he made me for breakfast seems to have just made me feel worse lol.

@StarryNightSparkles

Are you drinking plenty of water to re hydrate after sex?

Erm what?

@Sparkai

In a slightly less dramatic note... I always feel a bit shit like this at the start of a new relationship. I put it down to adrenaline and feeling a bit nervous slowing down the digestive system. This us made worse by drinking more alcohol, eating richer food, and not feeling able to fart/shit as regularly as at home. If you have spent so much time trying not to fart that even when you get to the loo you can't relax enough to let it all go. So feeling bloated and crap.

Can you get some deflatine and discreetly take some after eating?

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I'd vote CO. My friend has this at a friend's house. Felt ill. CO it was.

Allergies, worries about being in the 'wrong house' -lighting etc?

Was it a mushroom omelette he made you?

Is he serving you portion sizes that are a bit bigger than you are used to?

Took me a while to figure out that whenever my DH cooked he would serve me the same portion as himself, and this would leave me feeling bloated/rough.

@Sparkai

In a slightly less dramatic note... I always feel a bit shit like this at the start of a new relationship. I put it down to adrenaline and feeling a bit nervous slowing down the digestive system. This us made worse by drinking more alcohol, eating richer food, and not feeling able to fart/shit as regularly as at home. If you have spent so much time trying not to fart that even when you get to the loo you can't relax enough to let it all go. So feeling bloated and crap.

Can you get some deflatine and discreetly take some after eating?

Totally agree with this^

I used to feel like this before I moved in with my now DH when staying at his.
Think it’s the combination of not sleeping as well as in your own bed, eating random food and staying up later! It was the biggest motivator in moving in together because he felt the same when staying with me

It was when I realised half the effects of a hangover are sleep deprivation 😆

Could be the lack of sleep + food + alcohol etc.

Unlikely to be CO poisoning if BF is not affected, but still worth checking out to see if he has a monitor, for future safety!

Could also be a mould issue. Not everyone has the same susceptibility to mould growth - so it's quite possible that BF would not react, or has got used to it, and OP could react still. Usually the symptoms are more skin/mucous membranes irritation, but it's still worth checking to make sure he has no mould growth anywhere in his place.

Hope you feel better soon, OP!

The responses on here are absolutely hilarious. Only on MN.

Are you spending the evening drinking booze, eating different foods (takeaway?) and then getting less sleep than usual because you’re with your BF? I’m a delicate flower and that combination would do it for me!

Aside from the CO poisoning and drugging OP ( ), I can actually relate. I don't feel well when sleeping in a strange place, and if you are used to sleeping on your own, it can be very difficult to drop off when someone is snoring breathing next to you. And you then tend to sleep lightly, you might not want to totally relax in case you fart or snore! Adrenaline can play havoc with your digestive system.

I started a new relationship two years ago. For ages we could only spend the night together very irregularly and I could never sleep and then felt like shit. Now we're staying together more often (about twice a week) and I have got used to his bed and him too, it's better. The first fart is a real ice breaker :o

And if I were you I would avoid alcohol to see if it makes a difference.

Does he have a pet or a plant you might be allergic to?
If you don’t sleep well then that could easily cause you to feel a bit sick.

Oh I hate this stage of a relationship, eating and drinking followed by sex is always going to cause trapped wind, then making you scared to full asleep incase you fart 🤣, as being in a strange bed isn’t bad enough. OP, what you describe sounds exactly what I have experienced when I was dating someone, made the next day miserable as I always felt exhausted and unwell.

Fart away, I say.

All jokes aside, this could be down to carbon monoxide. Has he got an undetected gas leak? All these you get round his aren't what you normally get at your own place?

I've always slept badly in a strange bed at first. You're probably sleeping badly, eating "date" food or food he's cooked, and drinking too much.

Sleeping with the window open might be a start.

Less dramatic but it was the feather pillows with me, I'm allergic to them it turns out, made him buy new pillows as a condition of me moving in . Made me feel headachy and congested

I always feel rough after too much time spent around anyone. I'm an extroverted introvert. I love people but I need lots of me-time to recharge.

Would definately feel rough after a night up talking...or whatever else.

Does he have any damp or water damage in his place? That can trigger allergies which can present as you're describing.

If you're interested in New Age ideas, have a look at this -
www.healthyspacesbydesign.com/2019/02/24/what-is-geopathic-stress/

Some people say that buildings really can make you il....

do people really have sex with someone you won't fart in front of?

...make you 'ill'...

Is there any mould or fungus you can see?

@godmum56

do people really have sex with someone you won't fart in front of?

Ummmmm yes, absolutely