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Husband keeps stealing from me and my kids

146 replies

Smith1987224 · 04/10/2021 14:52

Hi there,
my husband and i have not been married very long about 6 month. I have two kids from a previous marriage. I have been noticing stuff going missing and i came across his profile on facebook marketplace and seen things of mine and my kids that he has taken and sold and is selling. I have asked before not to sell things that he has not asked about and especially stuff that belongs to my kids. He said he wouldnt do it and recently I came across another post where he is selling more of my stuff and not telling me. now before anyone says while married its our stuff, all the stuff that he has taken is stuff i got before we were even together and some of the stuff belongs to my parents which they are letting me use. The stuff that belongs to my kids is theirs. I have no idea where the money is that he gets because i Dont see it. I had to take my stuff back and hide it. He is always going through everything and i am always seeing him coming out of someones room. What advice can someone give me? I have been considering divorce because there are other issues i am having and kicking him out of my house because i pay for it and i am the only one that works ands the lease is in my name.I would like to know your thoughts and how you would feel

OP posts:
ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 04/10/2021 14:53

You've been targeted as a financial resource.

Divorce him as soon as possible.

CandyLeBonBon · 04/10/2021 14:54

Divorce? He sounds like a knob.

ducksalive · 04/10/2021 14:55

He is stealing your children's things and selling them.
This isn't someone you should have in your life.

What is he doing with the money?

Taxwolf · 04/10/2021 14:55

He’s stealing FFS. Kick him out and call the police.

Peridot1 · 04/10/2021 14:55

Get rid. How dare he? Thieving git.

MrsRobbieHart · 04/10/2021 14:56

Divorce. Immediately. And have him removed from your home.

PhoboPhobia · 04/10/2021 14:56

Absolutely get shot of him. Its an awful thing to do even once let alone after you have caught him out and told him not to.

SvartePetter · 04/10/2021 14:57

There is no excuse for this. Divorce him.

Perching · 04/10/2021 14:57

Why does he need money? Does he work?
Does he have a drug habit? The only people I know that did this to their families did it to fund drugs.

Bananalanacake · 04/10/2021 14:57

Why doesn't he work?

AttilaTheMeerkat · 04/10/2021 14:57

Would speak to the police and seek legal advice re divorcing him.

JaninesEyePatch · 04/10/2021 14:57

I've never actually said this on mn before but on this occasion it is really called for....

LTB

And do it yesterday

Clutterbugsmum · 04/10/2021 14:58

Call the police, get him out of your home and file for divorce ASAP.

YanTanTetheraPetheraPimp · 04/10/2021 15:00

Kick him out and call the police.

cheeseismydownfall · 04/10/2021 15:01

@JaninesEyePatch

I've never actually said this on mn before but on this occasion it is really called for....

LTB

And do it yesterday

Likewise I still haven't given my LTB after several years on mumsnet but this is seriously asking for it.

OP, remove this person from your house and your children's lives as soon as you possibly can. There is absolutely no possibility of recovering this.

FinallyFluid · 04/10/2021 15:01

The money he is making is either going up his nose, or in his arm, so there you go two reasons to divorce him.

He is a thief.

He is a drug addict.

Mix56 · 04/10/2021 15:02

What does he say when you tell him your parents belongings need returning?
Where is the money, that is rightly theirs?
Get him out asap. The longer you leave it the more he will be entitled to.
You cant live with this thieving loser.
No trust = no marriage

Mix56 · 04/10/2021 15:05

@FinallyFluid

The money he is making is either going up his nose, or in his arm, so there you go two reasons to divorce him.

He is a thief.

He is a drug addict.

He could be drinking, gambling, other debts too.. you dont need to know why. It's happening... that's enough
FinallyFluid · 04/10/2021 15:05

Fair enough.

TooMuchPaper · 04/10/2021 15:06

Your poor kids.

TheQueef · 04/10/2021 15:08

Where did you find him? How long did you know him before marriage?

He's got a hobby he needs to steal for.

Iwantcauliflowercheese · 04/10/2021 15:09

He's a thief. Divorce him when you are able to legally. My XP stole antiques from my house, family heirlooms and things left to my DC by their late GF. It was heartbreaking for us when we realised what he had done, and we never saw the money either.

Mybalconyiscracking · 04/10/2021 15:10

Please, please, please; for the sake of your children, get this man out of their lives!

Owlink · 04/10/2021 15:11

Get rid like yesterday. He's either on drugs or has a gambling addiction. He is just using you.

Gazelda · 04/10/2021 15:11

Tell him to leave and start the divorce process