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Ever felt intense sexual attraction to a stranger/someone you shouldn't ?

149 replies

Tadmadruby · 28/09/2021 18:40

I have never experienced this before so i don't quite understand it myself and did not act on it.

I am 34, divorced, had two long term relationships, never thought sex was missing anything before 🙈! Moved recently to a new flat, i saw a neighbour couple of times, no interaction between us so whatever and did not even look at him twice, then one day i was looking out if my window, he was standing in the street opposite my window on the phone with someone, i don't know what happen BOOM i was breathless, his voice is so dam sexy, i am just so hot for him, he is not even that good looking yet i find extremely sexually attractive!

It hit me so sudden, he is a stranger to me, not my type, but i am going crazy for him (not emotional, its animal instinct) !
I have seen him couple of times since and i try and look the other way whenever we cross path, it is just too much to handle !

The heck is that ?!

Anyone ever experienced sudden intense sexual desire to a stranger ? Do tell, would be good if i am not the only one.. weird🙈🙈

OP posts:
littlegiant · 01/10/2021 19:23

@WibbleWobbleWeeble

Yes. Someone put their hand on my back at work unexpectedly and I practically came on the spot.
Post of the day 🤩
Flipflopfoodle · 01/10/2021 19:55

Yes, once. He was a stranger when I met him but had a huge reaction when introduced at work. Been married 20 years now. I have never regretted it, never had the same experience with anyone else, and still get butterflies when he comes home. We didn't date immediately, and on paper he is not a good match for me but it seemed inevitable.

HardStaringBearFromDarkestPeru · 01/10/2021 20:45

Glad you enjoyed it but it did really happen last Saturday whether you believe me or not!
But maybe I should option it just in case Grin

Lana07 · 01/10/2021 21:27

@hippychick10

Yes. At a friend's birthday party! A group of boys and a group of girls....went out for dinner. I thought he was hot but never got to chat properly. At the end of the evening after a coffee at the girlfriends house...all us girls bedded down in the lounge and the boys (well young men) left. This boy just looked at me intensely and we locked eyes for more than a few seconds.

A few days later I received a letter in the post from my girlfriend....I recognised her writing and knew immediately what the letter was going to say!

I went out with him for 5 years and he was the sexiest man i'd ever laid my eyes on.

What did the latter say then?
TrishM80 · 02/10/2021 02:24

I'm sure you'd all love your husbands, boyfriends and partners thinking about other women like this!

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/10/2021 02:30

@DrinkingWishingSmokingHoping

I once slept with someone purely due to the way he played Jenga. Grin
I haven't RTFT but I'm a Jenga Ninja and I once played against a bloke and he told me I couldn't remove any blocks and I was buggered. I looked him right in the eye and flicked a block across the room without looking at it. Won the game.

If he didn't at least have a semi, who on earth is he? Grin

And yes I have had this IRL and acted on it. They aren't necessarily keepers but how many are?

RacheyCat · 02/10/2021 03:30

@TrishM80

I'm sure you'd all love your husbands, boyfriends and partners thinking about other women like this!
But surely it'd be deluded to think that they don't?

Maybe it's because we don't have children, so there's not the particular need for security and stability, but I wouldn't begrudge my husband these thoughts and I would understand if he acted on them. I would obviously feel jealous and wrongfooted, but I can see how you get there.

VienneseWhirligig · 02/10/2021 07:40

@TrishM80 I'm sure you'd all love your husbands, boyfriends and partners thinking about other women like this!

Meh, he can think what he likes about whoever he likes. I'd be pretty surprised though considering he's sitting on my bookcase and hasn't seen any other faces for nearly 3 years since he rather inconsiderately died Wink

BarbedButterfly · 02/10/2021 08:54

Yes, my current partner. Never felt anything like it before. Our chemistry all this time later is still crazy. We have made people uncomfortable before with how we look at each other apparently Grin He is just amazing.

bigbaggyeyes · 02/10/2021 09:00

I'm in my 50s and this happened when I was in my early 20s, I was wandering around a local country fair and there was a fire engine display, I walked past the stand ins one of the fireman happened to look at me - and BOOM (in the words of the op), I actually did a double take. Never even spoke to him but by god I've never felt anything like it. I'm normally the type of person who has to get to know someone before finding them sexually attractive but I'll next we forget this bloke Grin he probably retired, grey and wrinkly now, but he's the stuff of fantasy for me and will forever be young, muscly in a blue tight T-shirt

SparkyLauz · 02/10/2021 09:09

Yes! With my dental hygienist! Id recently changed dental practice and was told I would need a filling, booked in an appointment with the hygienist a few weeks later. Hate dentists so was dreading it. Opened the door and BOOM our eyes just locked across the room i was absolutely blown away and all nerves about having a filling just disappeared. Never felt anything like that before. And I'm certain he was feeling something too. I couldn't get him out of my head for days.
Both married so nothing with ever happen but I had to go back again a few weeks later, and it all came flooding back to me. Can not describe it at all how intense it was

Goingdriving · 02/10/2021 09:11

A fellow student by the copy machine at the university library thirty years ago. He took my breath away.

PartyStory · 02/10/2021 09:19

I'm sure you'd all love your husbands, boyfriends and partners thinking about other women like this!

It wouldn’t bother me because crushes and thoughts are something you can’t always control. What you can control though are your actions and I trust my partner enough to tell me his feelings instead of doing something behind my back.

I also love my partner enough that I would not force him to stay in a situation that he didn’t want to be in. If he wanted to be with someone else, then I would let him go. It would be painful but the right choice.

Lana07 · 02/10/2021 09:24

I mean *letter, sorry, a misprint :)

MintyCedric · 02/10/2021 09:32

@TrishM80

I'm sure you'd all love your husbands, boyfriends and partners thinking about other women like this!
Don't have one so not a problem Grin!
Lana07 · 02/10/2021 09:50

Thinking, imagining, fantasizing is ok and often normal.

Acting on it betraying your happy relations is not and often and up with regret.

If you are not in happy relations or have never been, then you don't know what it is unless you create it.

So it's best not to advise those who are because you are not experienced in life and relations yet and can't give much sense and life wisdom.

Lana07 · 02/10/2021 09:50

*often ends up with regret

FairFuming · 02/10/2021 10:15

@40somethingJBJ

Yes. My now ex-DH’s work colleague at a Christmas party. Couldn’t take my eyes off him, or him me. My husband noticed and said, “if we weren’t together, you’d have gone home with him tonight wouldn’t you?” I couldn’t deny it. That was 20 years ago, and I still think about it a lot.

My current partner hit me like a bolt of lightning too when we first met. We’d been chatting online for a while and had exchanged pictures. I thought he looked pleasant and had nice eyes, but the first time we met, I instantly wanted him. I don’t know if it’s his voice or his eyes or what, but I just fancy him so damn much!

I've had this with a guy I just met off OLD. It's like we have this crazy connection and I've not felt this way about anyone in a long time if ever.
SafeMove · 02/10/2021 11:10

Yes. I still remember the moment I saw him and he looked up at me. I didn't know what to do with myself. I have never felt so aware of my body. Everything else was like it was on a go slow. He said he had the same thing. We snogged all night and my friends said that it was weird to see the chemistry. We tried to make a go of it, and so many people commented on us being a couple as in 'Are you two together? You really like each other don't you?' I have never had other people pass comments on my other relationships. Unfortunately we couldn't make it work. We pissed each other off as much as we wanted to fuck each other. It was a love/hate thing. I never want to experience that again.

JoborPlay · 02/10/2021 11:46

Yes. And yes I acted on it. And yes, it was amazing.

TenInSport · 02/10/2021 14:40

I recently experienced this with a work colleague who I spend a lot of time with as we tend to end up being put on the same projects. He is much younger than me and there is nothing conventionally good looking about him at all but he is intelligent, articulate and we share the same dark sense of humour. He unexpectedly hugged me following a bad thing happening at work and I simultaneously nearly melted and nearly came in his arms. Since then the door has been opened to fairly frequent hugging (we work so closely most days that we made peace with the fact that if one of us has Covid we are going down together quite some time ago) and he still has the same effect on me every time. It's like my body just responds in a way that my brain can't even begin to comprehend.

TenInSport · 02/10/2021 14:41

And yes, I would act on it if the opportunity presented itself.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 02/10/2021 17:06

I'm sure you'd all love your husbands, boyfriends and partners thinking about other women like this!

You can’t help it ! Chemistry is , what it is

Myfilterisbroken · 02/10/2021 17:08

Is he Edward from Twilight? 👹

eveningoftheday · 02/10/2021 17:34

Never to a stranger. But at times to a person I would have not known well.

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