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Ever felt intense sexual attraction to a stranger/someone you shouldn't ?

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Tadmadruby · 28/09/2021 18:40

I have never experienced this before so i don't quite understand it myself and did not act on it.

I am 34, divorced, had two long term relationships, never thought sex was missing anything before 🙈! Moved recently to a new flat, i saw a neighbour couple of times, no interaction between us so whatever and did not even look at him twice, then one day i was looking out if my window, he was standing in the street opposite my window on the phone with someone, i don't know what happen BOOM i was breathless, his voice is so dam sexy, i am just so hot for him, he is not even that good looking yet i find extremely sexually attractive!

It hit me so sudden, he is a stranger to me, not my type, but i am going crazy for him (not emotional, its animal instinct) !
I have seen him couple of times since and i try and look the other way whenever we cross path, it is just too much to handle !

The heck is that ?!

Anyone ever experienced sudden intense sexual desire to a stranger ? Do tell, would be good if i am not the only one.. weird🙈🙈

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Thatwaslulu · 30/09/2021 19:37

Yep, someone I manage. He's not traditionally attractive, he's a pain in the arse really and talks way too much, but he's got a really lovely personality and reminds me of the love of my life in his mannerisms and sense of humour. I think it's just the similarity that has led to this feeling. He is getting married to a beautiful woman soon and I don't want a relationship with anyone anyway so it is a completely recreational crush that he will never know about. Hopefully it will pass. I have managed him for over a year but the crush only started the first time I met him face to face a few weeks ago

CarrotSticks23 · 30/09/2021 19:39

Yes, I have. I think they felt the same as they always act odd around me but can't be sure, sometimes they stare sometimes they act angry. They are married so nothing has ever been said and won't ever act on it. But fuck I wish we'd met at a different time

Frigginintheriggin · 30/09/2021 19:44

I was on a first date. Guy was sooooo boring 😴
A guy in the bar kept catching my eye. I went outside for a smoke and he followed. I ended up going home with him 😱
Only the once but the attraction was electric!

hippychick10 · 30/09/2021 19:44

Yes. At a friend's birthday party!
A group of boys and a group of girls....went out for dinner. I thought he was hot but never got to chat properly.
At the end of the evening after a coffee at the girlfriends house...all us girls bedded down in the lounge and the boys (well young men) left.
This boy just looked at me intensely and we locked eyes for more than a few seconds.

A few days later I received a letter in the post from my girlfriend....I recognised her writing and knew immediately what the letter was going to say!

I went out with him for 5 years and he was the sexiest man i'd ever laid my eyes on.

Durbeyfield · 30/09/2021 19:46

Yes a few times.
Last time, I acted on it, and within two weeks had left my then-husband (no kids) and moved out. Am now married to the one I was crazily attracted to and we’ve been together 14 years and have two children 😀

VanGoSunflowers · 30/09/2021 19:48

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Chicchicchicchiclana · 30/09/2021 19:51

Only once. Walking down my home town High Street with my mother and walked past a young guy, we both did a double take at each other, walked on. I was under 19 (not sure the exact age). Never had a lightening bolt like it since and I'm now nearly 60.

rhowton · 30/09/2021 19:53

Yes. I've been married 5 years and with DH for 10. I would never cheat. The OM would never cheat. We have to see each other through work. I am so attracted to him and really fancy him. He clearly feels the same way but we literally say nothing about it.

callysuper · 30/09/2021 20:14

Yes. A chiropractor of all people! I went in for a consultation and the moment our eyes met, it was electric. Told myself it was just one-off and signed up for a course of treatments with him - every time he touched me, it was like I'd been plugged in to the mains! Instant turn-on and I'm pretty sure he felt the same. There was this mad tension. In the end I had to stop going, it was too intense. This thread has made me wonder if I should pay him another visit though...!

Durbeyfield · 30/09/2021 20:16

VanGoSunflowers you just sort of know. You both know.

MintyGreenDream · 30/09/2021 20:22

Yes I met a friend of a friend whilst out drinking with Ex H and our friends and I was transfixed

DuesToTheDirt · 30/09/2021 20:26

Yes, with a woman, a friend of a friend. I am married and straight.

Lana07 · 30/09/2021 20:31

Yes, of course.

I fall get attracted quite easily if it's my type of man

fit
a bit taller than me
intellectual
has a good career/successful
is easy going, looks after himself

Nature wants us to breed :). That's why it happens.

Hormones.

My husband is my type. I love him dearly but I always notice very quickly other attractive men.

BarryTheKestrel · 30/09/2021 20:34

Yes. Currently. With the builder working on my house. We went to school together and back then I didn't give him a second glance, now 2 decades on, damn he gives me flutters. It is definitely mutual and we are both definitely not available to act on it. So I will enjoy my perving for the next few days and when the job is over, hopefully the come down from the attraction high won't be too bad!

ILoveYouMoreTheEnd · 30/09/2021 20:38

Yes yes yes!! I was still with my ex husband, shit marriage, the sex was non existent and he wasn't affectionate in any way. The eyes totally got me, I was a mess, pants wet I was practically leaving a trail 😂. I met him walking, he was walking his dogs and me mine. Long story short I left my ex and married the big sexy fucker and I'm having the best sex of my life lol.

Only one other time it's happened has been a customer I was serving, the way he looked at me wow and I was in lust. Never underestimate the power of physical attraction and raw hot kissing and sex...

VanGoSunflowers · 30/09/2021 21:22

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TonyThreePies · 30/09/2021 23:49

I met a guy a few years back on a night out with mutual friends. We said hello at the start of the night, there was a real sadness around him. I didn't speak to him again until the end of the night and when I went to say goodbye it was like someone had plugged him in. He was standing straighter and looked so much happier. Where he had seemed grey and heavy before he was lit up, had amazing blue eyes and the most gorgeous smile. He's asleep in my bed now 3 years later while I MN. The spark is still very much there and the sadness is long gone.

Wontsomebodyplsthinkofthecats · 01/10/2021 04:12

Yes - on a night out I met an amazing man; articulate, gorgeous, confident, kind and funny. We talked all night and he obviously felt it too but no moves were made because we were both married. I felt like I was glowing for weeks afterwards and thought about him constantly. We added eachother on Facebook because we had mutual friends and only spoke occasionally (twice a year or so briefly) making polite small talk but I was secretly crushing on him so badly and him me! For years everytime he "liked" my posts I got butterflies and full body blushes or when I saw him post anything.

Fast forward 10 years and I finally broke up with my abusive DH and made contact with him to tell him how I felt. We talked for about a week on the phone, every night for about 6 hours and then met up. We were in bed within 20 minutes having the best sex of my life! It's been a year now and it still feels amazing, as if we were drawn together like electromagnets! We now live together and he is the best person I have ever met. In my case the feeling was real, I'd never felt it before and have always been incredibly cynical about soul mates, love at first sight etc but now I'm not so sure

StarlightLady · 01/10/2021 05:30

Several times each month 😂.

RacheyCat · 01/10/2021 14:19

I have this with my Head of Department at the moment. It's agony. We've never spoken about anything other than work. I have no idea where he's from, if he's married, what he likes to do in his free time. Everything I do know about him comes from his work CV.

He's not my type at all. We don't share the same first language. He's shorter than me, or the same height. I'm not even particularly sure that he even likes me. He'll go days ignoring me and then finally acknowledge me. It's excruciating. Neither of us can speak to the other. I look at him a lot when he's not looking at me. I catch him looking at me too, I think.

It doesn't matter where it is, when I catch a glimpse of him, regardless of what he's doing, he is just the most fucking attractive man I have ever seen and I would burn my life to the ground if it meant we could have sex.

I don't know how to say this without sounding a dick, but I'm a classically attractive (blonde/slim/blue eyes/symmetrical face) woman in her thirties working in a sea of Asian people. It seems unreasonable that he wouldn't want to sleep with me, at least for the novelty factor.

HardStaringBearFromDarkestPeru · 01/10/2021 16:34

Happened Saturday afternoon in fact.

A guy I met through mutual friends 20 years ago - no spark at all in either direction. We've had very occasional meet ups with friends. I've had a 15 year relationship, he's been married & is now divorced with a son.
I hadn't seen him since long before Covid - still no spark - although we did the 'how's your lockdown going?' email a couple of times. We always said 'if you're in the area let's get coffee & a catch-up'.
He was driving back from seeing friends on Saturday & we met for coffee to break up his journey. I walked into the coffee shop, he got up from the table & we left. I didn't even sit down.
Am honestly still reeling from it.
It wasn't a one-off. I saw him on Wednesday night & it was exactly the same.
He lives about 2hrs away, he has a son, I have elderly parents responsibilities so I'm not sure where it can go.

I've locked eyes with a stranger before, there has been a spark & I have acted on it.
This is something else. If you'd told me 20 years ago, even back to when I last saw him, me with my then partner, him with his then wife & son, that this was going to happen, I would've thought you were taking the piss.

(I'm 49, post-menopausal so no ovulation)

EvenPhilip · 01/10/2021 16:39

A neighbour. He was out in a field opposite my house in the summer, shirt off scything overgrown grass. 20 years my senior, but I came over all peculiar.
Took him out a Cornetto for a better look

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 01/10/2021 18:00

@HardStaringBearFromDarkestPeru That's movie story line stuff, fabulous!
Well jell!

Getbehindme · 01/10/2021 18:13

Yes I'm here for that story too.

Siry · 01/10/2021 19:18

Yes with a colleague. The day I started the job he walked in and it was like OMFG! He felt the same too. We never did anything but I had to leave in the end as we were becoming too close and getting close to crossing the line. We were both married. The chemistry when we were in the same room was electrifying. It made me question my marriage as I had never felt like that about my DH ever. The distance when I left worked as out of sight, out of mind. It felt scary that time of my life.

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