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Ever felt intense sexual attraction to a stranger/someone you shouldn't ?

149 replies

Tadmadruby · 28/09/2021 18:40

I have never experienced this before so i don't quite understand it myself and did not act on it.

I am 34, divorced, had two long term relationships, never thought sex was missing anything before 🙈! Moved recently to a new flat, i saw a neighbour couple of times, no interaction between us so whatever and did not even look at him twice, then one day i was looking out if my window, he was standing in the street opposite my window on the phone with someone, i don't know what happen BOOM i was breathless, his voice is so dam sexy, i am just so hot for him, he is not even that good looking yet i find extremely sexually attractive!

It hit me so sudden, he is a stranger to me, not my type, but i am going crazy for him (not emotional, its animal instinct) !
I have seen him couple of times since and i try and look the other way whenever we cross path, it is just too much to handle !

The heck is that ?!

Anyone ever experienced sudden intense sexual desire to a stranger ? Do tell, would be good if i am not the only one.. weird🙈🙈

OP posts:
TheWinterSmoulder · 29/09/2021 23:11

weirdly a man in a crowd at a football match. He took his t-shirt off as it was raining and warm so he put it over his head, he just was so gorgeous, muscles, tattooed shoulder, beard, we locked eyes for a few seconds and he grinned at me then his team scored. He was screaming in Italian which made it worse. I was like I’d been dipped in boiling water.

Slimerecipehell · 29/09/2021 23:19

A decorator who came to paint our rented flat years ago. I was with my then bf, he went to work and I perved over the decorator all day, nothing ever happened but there was some weird, unspoken sexual tension. Turned out bf was a twat so should have maybe acted on the feeling. 25 yrs later and I still think about him occasionally and wonder if he’s still in the area.

40somethingJBJ · 30/09/2021 01:26

Yes. My now ex-DH’s work colleague at a Christmas party. Couldn’t take my eyes off him, or him me. My husband noticed and said, “if we weren’t together, you’d have gone home with him tonight wouldn’t you?” I couldn’t deny it. That was 20 years ago, and I still think about it a lot.

My current partner hit me like a bolt of lightning too when we first met. We’d been chatting online for a while and had exchanged pictures. I thought he looked pleasant and had nice eyes, but the first time we met, I instantly wanted him. I don’t know if it’s his voice or his eyes or what, but I just fancy him so damn much!

CowboyBebop · 30/09/2021 01:58

Yes, about 12 years ago in a work context. He was visiting with his boss and we stood next to each other listening to our bosses blab on when I could barely remain standing. I could see that he was checking me out of the corner of his eye so I assume it was mutual. We exchanged a few words of small talk at the break, staring at each other and then he left. I have looked him up on line once or twice since but he looks different, having gained quite a bit of weight. I'm glad I never saw him again as I was married and I would not have be able to restrain myself. I have had it happen to a lesser extent a few times since, once when I was on the train and it lurched and the man I was standing next to put his hand on my waist to stop me from falling over.

MorriseysGladioli · 30/09/2021 02:13

When I was about 20 and working in a bar, an older man used to pop in for a couple of drinks on his way home sometimes.
He wore a suit, smelt great, and had a beautiful Irish accent.
One time we were chatting, and he said I had better go, because he really didn't want to get me in trouble.
His eyes and the way he said it totally belied what he was saying.
Phew.... just hottt!

bananafish · 30/09/2021 02:24

Yes, only once, though. It was at a conference thingy.

It was like someone had slapped me. I was shaking with it. Really disoriented.

He looked a bit shell shocked, too.

We had to have a couple of stilted conversations which mostly involved staring at each other’s mouths.

Luckily, that was the last time I ever had to see him. I was in a relationship and would have never wanted to cheat, but hand on heart, if he’d told me he had booked a hotel room, I would probably have turned up.

Honestly, one of the weirdest experiences I have ever had.

RainyDay2020 · 30/09/2021 02:50

Yes, more than once. One in particular I still think about now over 20 years later. It was a powerful primal feeling that I needed to be with him. We’re both married to other people now but I still think ‘what if…’

AngelDelightUk · 30/09/2021 03:05

Yup, and when I was married I acted on it too. Led to some of the best sex I ever had I’m ashamed to say.

It was on and off for years, we’d literally meet up just for sex. It was when my late husband was in the depths of his alcoholism so it didn’t feel wrong as such. I was basically caring for him and no one was caring for me

It’s such an odd feeling.

Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese · 30/09/2021 03:19

Yes, the night I met dh, he came and sat next to me in a nightclub, it was an instant click of desire, we must have spent a good hour or so just kissing, if it hadn't been for my brother, I think I'd have gone home with him, been a 1 night stand and that would be the end of it. As it happened, we swapped numbers and my brother took me home. Almost 12 years, marriage, a dog, house and child later I still get that clench of desire in my lower stomach when he looks at me a certain way, he knows it and uses it to his advantage... usually the most inappropriate moments, resulting in near misses if trouble 😳

1forAll74 · 30/09/2021 03:20

Yes, most definitely, a few times in my life years ago. And once, forbidden fruit!

Garriet · 30/09/2021 03:30

Yes, a complete stranger at a county show. Saw him across the tent and instantly couldn’t take my eyes off him, went weak, the whole lot. Must’ve looked like a right idiot.

Several months later I saw him in the work car park and found he’d started working in the office upstairs to mine.

A couple of months after that, having bumped into him a few times and exchanged “good mornings”, I asked him out. We dated for about six months.

He was a bit of a knob.

TeeBee · 30/09/2021 04:10

Not so much sexual attraction but overwhelming attraction to him the first time I met him. He's currently lying next to me in my bed gently snoring. Turns out we utterly adore each other. Blissfully happy.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 30/09/2021 10:26

Me , met someone online and even their texts and photos made me sooooo horny. Still don’t know why ! I was totally obsessed

Plus met a client once and fast got major horn for him

It happens !

ErickBroch · 30/09/2021 11:01

Yes, first time in my life and it was a magnetism I cannot explain. We are getting married in a few months Grin

Gothichouse40 · 30/09/2021 11:20

Yes, more than once as a young woman, but have never acted on it. It was so confusing for me so I tried to ignore it.

MintyCedric · 30/09/2021 12:02

Me , met someone online and even their texts and photos made me sooooo horny.

IKWYM...I started having a bit of Pavlovian response to a certain notification tone Grin

Snowbites · 30/09/2021 12:51

Yes. A coworker I have always liked but recently it hit me like a ton of bricks quite how much. Now I am agitated, anxious, flustered all the time. I don’t even see him that often but I can’t stop thinking about him. I feel like a teenager but I’m nearly 40. It’s driving me crazy. We’re both married so it’s not ideal! Honestly not sure I’d be able to resist if it turns out he feels the same which is terrible, I know

KylieKoKo · 30/09/2021 12:56

Dp when I first set eyes on him at the tailend of my old relationshipBlush
I want to make it clear that I didn't interact with him at all apart from saying hi when our mutual friend introduced us and didn't even see him again for over a year but damn he was hot!

SleepingBunnies21 · 30/09/2021 14:10

This is what is referred to in the Godfather as the thunder bolt.

If you're female, I bet if you think about it, you were probably ovulating at the time.

Irish993 · 30/09/2021 14:16

I've definitely had this a bunch of times. The intensity is always tied to how lonely I am at the time. Haven't had it in a while. When I was single I fell for a married man online, but it couldn't go anywhere. Couldn't get enough of looking at him.

Generallystruggling · 30/09/2021 14:44

Once but it didn’t end well at all. He worked in my local supermarket and I went in there most days for ‘bits’ or for lunch or whatever because it was on my doorstep so it was convenient. He didn’t fit in with anyone who worked there at all, I could tell he was around my age and he just looked really intriguing to me. I struck up conversation with him one day and added him on FB that night (his name was quite obscure so easy to find).

We dated for 9 months but he was an abusive twat and he stalked me for months after I left, I had to call the police in the end to get him to leave me alone. Horrible experience.

Underthestairsbears · 30/09/2021 15:03

Two days before I was due to get married I was at my parents house and a man came into the garden.
He was talking to my parents about trees, some sort of tree surgeon. I spoke to him briefly too. He was absolutely my type and I literally could feel the energy between us. I'm convinced it was reciprocated.
Anyway my mum said afterwards that she thought he liked me!
I married DH and that was that. I do pay particular attention though if someone is advertising tree surgery on a Facebook page 😁

A few years before that I'd been renting in a dodgy area and there was a girl with two kids that had a boyfriend that visited. Oh my goodness, I was not interested in any way apart from the fact I read wanted to sleep with him, every time I saw him! After I moved house I ran into him in a pub and was with a friend and we'd had far too much to drink. I was so not myself and tripped down the stairs... up until that point I'd thought he fancied me too!

aLifetimeago · 30/09/2021 17:22

Yes I was introduced to him by a friend and instantly thought (wow who is THIS!) then a huge disappointment when I was introduced to his date straight after.

8 months later he found me and sent me a message (his date didn't work out btw). We just bought our dream home and are so blissfully happy.

SerenaJoy · 30/09/2021 18:57

@Snowbites

Yes. A coworker I have always liked but recently it hit me like a ton of bricks quite how much. Now I am agitated, anxious, flustered all the time. I don’t even see him that often but I can’t stop thinking about him. I feel like a teenager but I’m nearly 40. It’s driving me crazy. We’re both married so it’s not ideal! Honestly not sure I’d be able to resist if it turns out he feels the same which is terrible, I know
Snowbites are you me? I am having this exact thing just now. Cannot stop thinking about said colleague Blush Could never act on it as both married with kids, but would also be sorely tempted if the opportunity presented itself
littleburn · 30/09/2021 19:17

Yes, acted on it and 5 years later we're still togetherGrin

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