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Ever felt intense sexual attraction to a stranger/someone you shouldn't ?

149 replies

Tadmadruby · 28/09/2021 18:40

I have never experienced this before so i don't quite understand it myself and did not act on it.

I am 34, divorced, had two long term relationships, never thought sex was missing anything before 🙈! Moved recently to a new flat, i saw a neighbour couple of times, no interaction between us so whatever and did not even look at him twice, then one day i was looking out if my window, he was standing in the street opposite my window on the phone with someone, i don't know what happen BOOM i was breathless, his voice is so dam sexy, i am just so hot for him, he is not even that good looking yet i find extremely sexually attractive!

It hit me so sudden, he is a stranger to me, not my type, but i am going crazy for him (not emotional, its animal instinct) !
I have seen him couple of times since and i try and look the other way whenever we cross path, it is just too much to handle !

The heck is that ?!

Anyone ever experienced sudden intense sexual desire to a stranger ? Do tell, would be good if i am not the only one.. weird🙈🙈

OP posts:
screwcovid · 28/09/2021 19:58

@DrinkingWishingSmokingHoping

I once slept with someone purely due to the way he played Jenga. Grin
Brilliant ha

Yes in the petrol station last Thursday but happens a lot mainly cause me and my bf don't have sex!

WibbleWobbleWeeble · 28/09/2021 20:21

Yes. Someone put their hand on my back at work unexpectedly and I practically came on the spot.

newnameday · 28/09/2021 20:57

@DrinkingWishingSmokingHoping

I once slept with someone purely due to the way he played Jenga. Grin
Definitely something I would have done.

I want to hear more from @Susannahmoody and the BIL?!

Muttly · 28/09/2021 21:01

Many times I was a horny divil back in the day. I shagged most of the guys it happened with.

AWonderfulNewName · 29/09/2021 18:13

Happened to me a couple of times.
Once with a guy, I barely knew and didn't find that attractive. One night he sat next to me at the bar and something happened to me - I ended up pushing him against the wall and saying " I want to f@*k you 5 times'' :) I have no idea where that came from :) We were together for about a year and a half. I was most heartbroken when we split up.

The second time - it was a woman. Saw her from behind and my heart jumped. Saw her from all sides - I think I am still in love with her 3 years later... She is married though, so have to keep my feelings to myself.

Flufferty · 29/09/2021 18:17

Yes!! I was waiting at a traffic light the other day and there was a man standing on the pavement outside a barber shop. I think he works there. I have to drive that way quite often and keep an eye out for him 😂

SunscreenCentral · 29/09/2021 18:23

Yes. A guy who is part of a friendship group I'm in in another country.
I'm going to spend a weekend with him in Paris soon. Make or break...

VanGoSunflowers · 29/09/2021 19:02

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FayCarew · 29/09/2021 19:04

Yes, occasionally. I can think of a few. Smile
didn't act on it

stealthninjamum · 29/09/2021 19:14

Yes and luckily I’m now going out with him. I was doing online dating after the end of a twenty year relationship thinking it would be good to meet a nice man and maybe the passion could grow like it had with my ex. Anyway I met this guy online, texted, had a few late night conversations. He had a sexy voice and interesting turn of phrase but not my usual type lookwise. Our first date was like fireworks. That was two and a half years ago.

Bearnecessity · 29/09/2021 19:25

Yes, just a couple of times....sexual tension you could cut with a chainsaw....

Tomatobear · 29/09/2021 19:26

I'm sure it's all part of major histocompatibility complex attraction, where we can 'sense' good genes in people through various factors. It's a dangerous game in modern society though as some have demonstrated above Grin

ParishSpinster · 29/09/2021 19:40

Once. I saw him walk down a street with a group of his friends as I walked towards then with some of my friends. Can't explain what came over me. I think I just stopped him, growled at him and told him he was coming for a drink with me. It genuinely felt like I bewitched him in some way as he followed me like a puppy to another bar and dumped his friends for the night. Took him home with me as well and had lots of fun.

Never saw him again.

Ah, memories of a different time.

GrandmasCat · 29/09/2021 19:45

Ok, it happens, and it happens all the time. The important thing is not to be blindsided with so much lust you end up assuming that is reciprocal.

Personally, I wouldn’t get involved with a neighbour unless you are renting/planning to move again in the medium/short term. But if you insist, check first that he is available and if he is, by all means start the conversation going with a simple hi

Campalumpa · 29/09/2021 20:08

Yes I did once in 20s saw him across a crowded room went to talk to him and dear reader was in bed with him a few hours later.

Jubilate · 29/09/2021 20:21

Yes, when I was 23 and worked in a bank. I served a man who was in his mid 50s. It felt like intense sexual attraction. He wasn't particularly attractive. Had a greying moustache. But I couldn't remember feeling anything like it before.

myfacelookslikeatoe · 29/09/2021 20:26

Yes the short bloke in my co op

Nosilayak · 29/09/2021 20:39

The man who collects the trolleys at my local ASDA. I've seen him around town and he looks gorgeous in his everyday clothes. I don't know if he's single I don't even know his name and he doesn't even know I exist but I get a thrill every time I see him. I'm married but I am my husband's carer and we haven't had a normal relationship for many years. I'd never leave him but I enjoy my little fantasy about the asda man.

BrilloPaddy · 29/09/2021 20:54

Only once in nearly 30 years of marriage, and it was horribly unsettling to realise that you could still feel that intense level of attraction. Made me feel really agitated and off kilter for a good while afterwards.

Getbehindme · 29/09/2021 21:02

A bit silly but on Tinder - this one profile just sent me a bit loopy, he looked great, and what the profile said. We matched and had a disgraceful conversion!

VanGoSunflowers · 29/09/2021 21:37

@Getbehindme

A bit silly but on Tinder - this one profile just sent me a bit loopy, he looked great, and what the profile said. We matched and had a disgraceful conversion!
The good kind of disgraceful?
Spindrifting · 29/09/2021 21:40

Yes, awkwardly, he is a prominent politician I’ve sat with at a few events because of DH’s work. It’s freakishly embarrassing…

Selkiesarereal · 29/09/2021 21:48

Yes, it was such a strange feeling and one that I remember all these years later.

It was in work and he came to my desk to ask a question, we’d never met before and after he left my colleagues asked what that was all about as he seemed to feel the same way.

Thankfully I left not long after so never saw him again. All very bizarre.

WishingYouAMerryChristmasToo · 29/09/2021 22:00

I’ve never had it. My friend was seconded to a different department mine - when she arrived - it was like lightning between her and John (both single) it was uncomfortable for everyone - we all noticed. Gradually after the meeting closed we all sloped off to our various offices - she arrived an hour or so later and I knew she had been having arc with him. She had sex with him in the boardroom (literally waited until the last person left flicked the lock and lowered the blinds and …’ she went on a date with him that night been married 20 odd years now

Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 29/09/2021 22:07

The boiler man. A friend was there. I was engaged. She said could feel the attraction and thank god she was there.