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What's been your largest age gap relationship

93 replies

CrystalMaze55 · 28/09/2021 16:13

Interested to hear if anyone has dated or had a fling with someone younger than them

OP posts:
Hen2018 · 28/09/2021 20:11

He was 13 years older. He was unfaithful and nasty, but all my partners have been so that’s not due to his age!

Aurory · 28/09/2021 20:14

Relationships -
youngest: 3 years younger
oldest: 15 years older

TolkiensFallow · 28/09/2021 20:31

I was 23, he was 36. It was cracking. Made me weak at the knees.

VienneseWhirligig · 28/09/2021 20:43

Never been with anyone the same age or younger than me. Smallest age gap 6 years and largest was DH at 22 years. I loved the bones of that man, we had 20 amazing years together.

Lozzi23 · 28/09/2021 23:00

I’m 53, he’s 39, been together nearly 3 years, he’s very mature and I’m not 😂 x

Alcemeg · 28/09/2021 23:05

@Lozzi23

I’m 53, he’s 39, been together nearly 3 years, he’s very mature and I’m not 😂 x
Similar here. 23 year gap.
bert3400 · 28/09/2021 23:10

DH is 11 years younger than me . He was 20 when we met. Was told it would never last...23 years, 2 DS, 2 Dogs and a successful business together we are still going strong.

Joystir59 · 28/09/2021 23:39

First lesbian relationship, I was 39 she was 30. We were together seven years.

unsportyspice · 28/09/2021 23:44

15 year older than me.
Next one was 8 year younger than me.
Current one is same age.

TokyoTen · 29/09/2021 00:21

I was 42, he was 28. Highly recommended!

Lookingoutside · 29/09/2021 00:35

I’m seeing a guy 20 years younger than me and am mid 40s. Another guy I see occasionally is 12 years older than me.

occa · 29/09/2021 00:39

In my longest relationship he was 10 years older . Current fling is 13 years younger.

alexdgr8 · 29/09/2021 00:40

27 years.
and i miss him every day.

Snugglybuggly · 29/09/2021 00:43

7 years 61/54

YodaiamsaidI · 29/09/2021 00:53

10 years older and 5 years younger but if one night stands count 14 years younger and he wanted a 2nd nightGrin
Interesting and disturbing fact I learnt today,90 odd year old Tony Curtis first met his current girlfriend when she was still in the womb!!!

Her mum has a photo from backstage at one of his concerts when they met in the late 60s.

tiktokdrama · 29/09/2021 01:06

23 yrs older. Now DH is 5 years younger... I know which inptedee Grin

tiktokdrama · 29/09/2021 01:07

I prefer!

notthemum · 29/09/2021 01:25

Years ago, I was 19 he was 49.
Now , I am 58 dp is 50 (been together 16 years.

Buggritbuggrit · 29/09/2021 01:38

My fiancé is four years younger than me. We’re in our thirties. My ex was also about four years younger than me. Everyone else I’ve ever dated has been within a year or two of my age (older or younger). I’ve never done the properly ‘older man’ thing, as it doesn’t appeal.

Eesha · 29/09/2021 03:40

This is a great thread as I know someone whose ex was 15 and he was 32 when they first met, I think dating soon after. To me, I was quite shocked however they dated for 12 years, ended amicably and both fine about it. It looks like it's more common than I thought even though I couldn't imagine it myself.

LaBellina · 29/09/2021 04:22

My ex was 13 years older than me - I was 20 and he was 33. This was 16 years ago.
I still think fondly of him and we still wish each other a happy birthday every year despite having families and living on different continents.

CheddarTheDog · 29/09/2021 08:28

I’m 35, currently dating a 29 year old. He’s great and far more respectful, affectionate and genuine than the men I’ve recently met who are in their 40s.

PyjamasOClock · 29/09/2021 11:59

Not younger, no. XH was 19 years older and though I couldn't see it at the time, it had a problematic dynamic. Other serious relationships were 15 and 12 year age gaps, both older. Current BF is 3 months older than me and it's much healthier.

Roadtrip2018 · 29/09/2021 12:13

17 years older. Together 18 years, married 9.

PermanentTemporary · 29/09/2021 12:17

Relationships always between 1-3 year gap.

Flings - at 49 I had a lovely sexy little thing with a 27 year old for a few months. A fantasy on both our sides, no harm done.

Had a rather more painful casual thing with a guy 9 years younger. I think he was a bit lonely and lost but fit as fuck and I'm not entirely sure I was good for him.