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Bf text I love you to

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Mistygeepurr · 26/09/2021 10:55

I had text of my bf saying I love u to.but I didn't message him it was like he was replying to a text of someone?

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Mistygeepurr · 26/09/2021 13:08

We have been together and whole year.he works for a building site on securities and has only just started working Saturdays.only use to work week days.he tells me there's being maintenance work on the site lately and there's contractor's there now at the weekend so I didn't think nothing of it.but after that text message yesterday I'm rethinking is he actually at work because this Saturday job has only come about the last 4 weeks or so .

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Foghead · 26/09/2021 13:11

I’d text ‘is there something you need to tell me?’ Then don’t believe any of his lies.

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Mistygeepurr · 26/09/2021 13:12

Plus he doesn't really have that kind of relationship with his mum when they text.its normal pretty formal with them like how are u etc never really any I love yous.it just seemed really out of character the whole message.

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tootootaataa · 26/09/2021 13:14

I think you know deep down if that was meant for you

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Mistygeepurr · 26/09/2021 13:16

I've been picking my brain thinking was it a auto text etc I think I will monitor his behaviour etc from now on and see if anything is different the only thing that's changed lately is him going in Saturday's because they need the security due to there being work done now at the site and the men r working Saturdays now.

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Mistygeepurr · 26/09/2021 13:17

I think if I pull him on it he's going to lie.i don't know if he is thinking she hasn't mentioned that text message yet.its such a awkward feeling it's like he's thinking. Did she get that Text etc.

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liveforsummer · 26/09/2021 13:18

Our if character to send to his mum, was it out of character to send to you?

RantyAunty · 26/09/2021 13:19

How many times has he randomly texted you I love you?

It does sound like he really isn't working on Saturdays.

What days do you normally see him?

TheQueef · 26/09/2021 13:20

Drive by his work with sandwiches and a flask next Saturday, if he's there you've surprised him with lunch and if not you've got a snack for while you work out how to get rid.

GreenTeaPingPong · 26/09/2021 13:21

Could you check out the site on a Saturday and see if he's telling the truth about that?

TheVolturi · 26/09/2021 13:23

Go and visit the site?

MitheringMytryl · 26/09/2021 13:25

if not you've got a snack for while you work out how to get rid.

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Mistygeepurr · 26/09/2021 13:29

I could go there actually and surprise.its on like a industrial estate so full of engine work etc but i can get there I was actually thinking that myself lol

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Mistygeepurr · 26/09/2021 13:29

It's past where we do our shopping so could say dropping in some lunch for u before I do the shopping.

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AnyFucker · 26/09/2021 13:30

Do you have “find my friends” on your phone ?

girlmom21 · 26/09/2021 13:33

@Mistygeepurr

It's past where we do our shopping so could say dropping in some lunch for u before I do the shopping.

Do you live together?

KittenKong · 26/09/2021 13:35

@MitheringMytryl

if not you've got a snack for while you work out how to get rid.

Well it is an industrial estate, so...

Ginger1982 · 26/09/2021 13:56

Just be direct and call him out on it! None of this wishy washy 'monitoring' of his behaviour.

mummaelle · 26/09/2021 13:58

@ThisIsStartingToBoreMe it could be innocent like to his mum or grandma 😂

Anotherbrokenairer · 26/09/2021 14:04

Eugh...I had something similar from an ex. Got a text saying 'finished work I'll be with you as soon as I can x'. I knew it wasn't for me as we were living in different cities so everything was always pre- planned . I messaged straight back asking who the message was for, no reply. Called, wouldn't pick up. Needless to say I realised we weren't on the same page.

DadAManger · 26/09/2021 14:32

There is usually a strong denial of wrongdoing and perhaps even turning it around into you being overly-suspicious or similar - this happened to me years ago when a girlfriend made a similar ‘error’.

Stick to your guns and ask about it directly rather than ‘monitoring’ for the next weeks and months is my advice.

Myusernameisnotmyusernameno · 26/09/2021 14:47

Just ask him

Balonzette · 26/09/2021 14:49

@TheQueef

Drive by his work with sandwiches and a flask next Saturday, if he's there you've surprised him with lunch and if not you've got a snack for while you work out how to get rid.

This

Anotherbrokenairer · 26/09/2021 15:09

If you ask him I'll bet he'll say he was just typing I love you to you and the 'to' was an accidental typo. He'll probably even laugh and tell you the typo should've told you that as it's not even spelt correctly. Then he'll laugh at the insinuation that not only is he a cheat but you don't think he can spell and you'll question yourself.

Pinkbonbon · 26/09/2021 15:16

If you think I think he would lie about your partner then it suggests to me that you don't think he is a trustworthy or honorable person. So he isn't partner material either way.

I think if he is the sort to cheat...your gut already knows it. Maybe not your head, nor your heart but your gut.

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