What do you fink ?

[Sonaftersonafterson]

About seeing someone who pronounces their 'th' as an 'f'? As in, "I was firsty anyway".

Would it put you off? Hes an intelligent guy but.... oh god, I dont know. Am I being a snob??

He says 'fink' and 'ain't '... and it makes no difference at all. I ain't giving him up for anything!

Or anyfink

liveforsummer how old is your daughter?

It would be a no from me.
Using F instead of TH comes across as plain ignorant and I know I would inwardly wince every single time.
I personally find it a bit odd even quite feeble that he's in his 40s and hasn't bothered getting a driving license.
In a nutshell I admire success and drive (to a small degree at least).
I think you're too far apart.

If you listen to most people you know, most people don't pronounce their "th" in most words. I teach kids phonics and once I started doing that, I noticed it in the people around me. My hubs taught himself to start using his "th" again through being more conscious about it. Loads and loads of people use f instead of th

was genuinely shocked when he said he'd got a train and a bus to get there

Hahaha! If this shocking you, you really need to get out more. How embarrassing for you.

Not most people I know.
Same can't be said for it cropping up increasingly on radio and TV unfortunately. BBC Free seems to be the preferred way when their endless trails come on.

My son's form tutor does it. I fought (thought) and I fink. I also used to work with someone who did the same. My own ds started doing it and I asked him if he realised it was "th" and was he able to pronounce it (as he does have a stammer) and he could, he just wasn't!

@neonplant

Embarrassing? How's that? I'm not embarrassed at all! I WAS shocked because apart from my teenage sons, most people drive. I wasn't fall down on the floor shocked to my core love, I was taken aback though.

@ZZGirl

If you listen to most people you know, most people don't pronounce their "th" in most words. I teach kids phonics and once I started doing that, I noticed it in the people around me. My hubs taught himself to start using his "th" again through being more conscious about it. Loads and loads of people use f instead of th

I don’t know anyone who doesn’t pronounce their “th”!

Good to thrash it out here though, so thank you to everyone who gave their opinion. I have decided that, yes, I clearly am not compatible with this guy. I find success and financial security attractive (within totally normal realms, not CEO and earning millions!). However, always picking him up, always paying if I want to go somewhere nice, always lying about what things cost me because he would find it shocking... long term, it wouldn't work. That's my forts on it anyway

Speaking as someone who grew up in Essex, and whose ancestors were born and grew up within the sound of Bow Bells, I'm finding some of the comments on here are offensive and downright insulting.

I'm saddened to find so many bigots on MN. Saddened, but not surprised.

I can't pronounce 'th'. I try but I just can't get my mouth to make that sound. I'm thrilled to know that makes me ignorant, annoying, lazy etc

Good job you've come to that conclusion. I fink he can do better

Me & my whole family & most people I know talk this way. We are all Intelligent, pleasant people. It's just how we talk!. I pronounce my home city as Plymuff.

One of the local mums introduced me to her DD - "Beffany" :)

It's deffo regional.

@annacondom

One of the local mums introduced me to her DD - "Beffany" :)

It's deffo regional.

I don't understand giving a dc a name that the parent can't even say properly. My niece is Danielle, her parents pronounce it Dan-yell. It really irritates me.

Just as it is jarring to some of you to hear fink, rather than think.
How do you feel about people saying happeh instead of happy?

It would really grate on me but then I don't live in an area where people can't say th. presumably if I did and I heard it every day I might be less bothered.

If it bugs you now, you will grow to despise it.

Don't try to ignore something like that.

@Auroreforet

How else do you pronounce Danielle?

You all sound like DP's XW. She decided his native accent made him sound stupid, so relentlessly corrected and criticised him every time he slipped back into his natural speech. She hated it because he was relaxed and happy and did that just to make him feel small and ridiculous compared to her totally affected accent.

I prefer his natural one, complete with dialect, because it means he's happy, relaxed and confident. And it doesn't have the slightest bearing upon his intelligence or writing.

Criticising somebody for a London accent is no different to criticising somebody for their Indian, Ghanaian, Polish or Japanese accent in my opinion.

Deal breaker for me.

I hate it!! I think it's more a lazy thing than a regional thing. Plenty of people who live in my area do it but I'd rather be six feet under than speak like that....
My DS has a th in his name & it makes me shudder when his friends say f instead of th but it's even worse when adults do it.....

I'm from London and my name begins with Th. it's an unusual one and I invariably have to spell it. Even making an effort to pronounce the Th the person usually writes F as the first letter.

That said my Irish friend misses the h altogether and my French colleague pronounces it like it starts with an S.

They would say think as tink and sink though... lazy uneducated b**stards

Just on the phone to a friend so I asked her too and she summed it up as "it just makes you sound a bit thick". I tend to agree despite knowing factually, that this is not the case. Stereotypes I guess.