He's arranged to meet his ex tomorrow

[OvariesDeep]

I'm absolutely fuming. My husband mumbled something about a job tomorrow morning and was umming and arring about it and I just thought, yep, he's going round the OW house - the one I thought he had dumped 3 years ago. I just have that feeling, you know, when things just don't add up. He was avoiding eye contact and just being shady. I just flaming well know, it's a sixth sense. I am house bound tomorrow as car is knackered, so he knows he can do whatever he likes. I'm buggered if I'm getting the kids on the bus to check if his car is there or not. I just know he is going there. Things just don't add up. He's being shady and now he knows I'm stuck in with the kids, he immediately picked up and is being his jolly fucking self.

I am so bloody upset. Talk me down!!

So he’s behaving out of character? Are they meeting for a hook up,it’s it an affair?
Presumably no point asking him, he’ll,obviously deny it
What do you want to do?

I think your marriage is over.

He's clearly had an affair and you don't trust him as far as you could throw him. From your post there's no love or trust between you. Why are you still with him? It sounds a miserable way to live.

I don't get this? He is going to see his OW tomorrow ? Kick his arse out? Why are you staying to be mugged off ?

Various things like kids keep us together, but I need to see for myself his car outside her house. The proof of my thoughts.

Why would you put up with that

I wanted to go and look at the house take a photo and show him proof that I know. I cannot do this as I'm stuck indoors

It could literally be in my head . I need the proof

@Babyg1995
I don't want to put up with it. I want proof to show him and myself that I know and we can split

Taxi?

Feign illness so he has to take the DC with him?

Taxi there knock on the door and ask him for a lift back.

Get in an uber. Seriously. You can't live like this!!

Where do you live? If any MNers live nearby maybe someone could do it for you?

@samwitwicky

Where do you live? If any MNers live nearby maybe someone could do it for you?

That came across a bit stalkerish.

I don't mean give us your address, just the general area

Ask a friend to drive by and take a snap?

@samwitwicky oh god what a fab idea

I can't ask a friend. I'm too embarrassed

[quote OvariesDeep]@samwitwicky oh god what a fab idea[/quote]

So...?

I agree with @samwitwicky what is your general area or city. Someone will help. The support I've had on here for things has been phenomenal

I'd do it if you were near me 💐

Definitely arrange a drive by!

If North London I could help.

Does it matter where he is? If he’s not there this time, you’ll think he’ll be there the next time. You don’t trust him, doesn’t matter if there is proof or not, why make yourself feel like this? Either forgive and forget, or leave. You can’t be doing this forever.

You don't need proof to leave someone?
You can just leave?

I would leave just on the fact I was with someone, lived with and had kids with and even thought he was off out to see another woman!? I wouldn't need any photo, if that's what I thought he was doing the relationship would be over. No way.

Wtf.

Because it would be nice to catch the bastard out and give her the strength to get shot of him @Miliao

@SlidDownTheElephantsTrunk

If North London I could help.

I really think people,on mn who are strangers shouldn’t be meeting up to stage intervention or offer lifts to get involved in a strangers dysfunctional marriage. That’s completely crackers, empathise by all means. Meet up get all murky and involved plus driving around, no.