I love him, but...

[TiredEyes42]

Ok, so.. it doesn't matter what I say or do recently I can never seem to do anything right. Even something as small as, what we doing for tea, o get why do you leave it to me all the time haven't you got a brain, I only ask what he fancies, we both offer up suggestions.
I generally think because he's older than me, he treats me a bit like a child rather than an equal partner, hes 14 years older.
Hes been putting off doing a few jobs in our house due to a bad back, which is understandable. His ex phones, 2 young kids to her, she wants a bedroom decorating, can he do it? Apparently her other half is useless at DIY. Anyway, he says yes can I have the kids so they're not under feet and pestering. I say of course I will, but what about your back? I don't want you hurting yourself. Well.. for something I thought was a caring and loving to say this is what I got.. oh for fuck sake, everytime it comes to XXXX you're always so negative and bitter, why do you have to comment on everything I do, cant I do anything without you having a problem with it. Your so selfish.
I'm sat there,with my chin on the floor, completely gobsmacked from his reaction, tears rolling down my face like what the fuck just happened?
Literally everything I say the last few weeks he either jumps down my throat, bites my head off, takes it the wrong way or just dismisses me. I really don't understand why.
Is it actually me? Am I coming across all wrong? Is he trying to make me walk away, is he pushing me away?
I'm always there for him, whatever he's going through. We used to be really close at one point. The best of friends that turned into love of our lives relationship. Its just this last month or so he's changed and I feel like I'm walking on eggshells the entire time. I don't like being round him much t the moment.
To be honest, I'm ready for walking. But, there might be something happening which maybe he isn't telling me about as to why he's been like this? I don't know. I love him to bits but at this moment I'm thinking I don't want to live like this.

He’s cheating on you. Men that suddenly have an issue with everything to do with their partner always are.

I wouldn't be so sure about what he's actually going to be doing when he's supposed to be cutting in the skirting.

Anyhow, he was a dick to you. They can do the 'decorating' with the kids around. Extra time for him to see his children.

Why on earth are you wasting your youth on this total dickhead? FFS, get out of there and run for the hills. You can do so much better.

If it's the spare room for the new partners kids then the new partner should be doing it all! Why can't the kids be there, they are not babies and surely the ex can look after them.
I have a feeling the new partner wont be there.
I also think it's a possibility he may be up to something, hence the moodiness. If he really was in pain, he wouldn't be decorating - at all!

Why put up with this repeated cycle of nice and nasty? Take some time to seriously reflect on your relationship and how you see it being in 5/10/20 yrs time. Have you any personal life goals that you want to achieve? Kids, travel, move to a different area, new career - do you think he'd be supportive?

Stop baby sitting for free for this rude, irritable, disrespectful bloke with no proper boundaries with his ex (ever heard of a decorator?).

He's an older divorce (I wonder why) whose money is already tied up in providing two kids and hes not even nice to you.