What makes you swipe right?

[hellcatspangle]

Having enjoyed reading the previous thread about swiping left - what gets the swipe of approval on a dating app? I'm not dating but for me it would be

A neat beard
A big smile
A nice dog 😂

Clear pictures, decent bio, shared interests.

I've been on the Apps for over a year and have not been on a date yet! I don't know if I'm being too picky or the men are just not making an effort to be appealing! I hate the sunglasses, gym pictures, stern glaring and the bio that says can't be bothered with this bit, any questions just ask!!!
So for me a swipe right would have;
Clean/smart appearance
A smile
A bio that mentions being content in life, friends and family.

American or Russian
References Burning Man
Quick wit

Or that’s my dating pattern, anyway. More broadly, a considered bio (which isn’t just a list of favourite bands, countries travelled or hobbies; and an empty bio is an immediate left swipe regardless of photos), some humour I gel with, and being slim or muscular, fit and active.

Not dating at the moment either but...

Toned , strong forearms
A handsome face
Well fitting clothes
6' ++
A sense of the man being in search of a genuine relationship rather than a hook up/ FWB.
Casual interest in hobbies and past times rather than any obsessions that take up majority of his free time .

Picture of just themselves in a friendly approachable way, well dressed, clean and tidy looking with well groomed hair/beard job title, height, respectful bio's.

Funily enough, beards and dogs tend to put me off xD. I like my men clean shaven and a dog would make me think 'at some point down the line are all the dog chores going to end up falling to me?'.

But a smile is always great. So I'm going to go with

Smile
Cleanshaven/tidy in general
Made a little effort to write a profile (one that sounds ok).

Smiling, looking clean and tidy are the big ones.

Smiling, clean, nice face, active, and they must write something legible about themselves.

They must also have something in their bio that makes me think they'll be ok with me having a child.

And they must live relatively nearby - I can't do LDR and I'm not interested in dropping everything for a gap yah to find myself.

• clear photos showing a range of activities/interests/that he is capable of socialising/leaving his room - I absolutely hate the pouty selfies (especially if they've applied a filter, cringe)
• no manscaping/overly groomed eyebrows/lip fillers
• shared interests
• looking for a relationship not casual
• no children (yet)
• they they've taken the time to write something in their bio and its all spelt correctly
• someone who appears to have some level of independence and autonomy (drives, job, house) etc

Tall, smile, well written, friendly bio with something interesting to go on= swipe right

Swipe left= smoker, negative comments about women 'no drama, no fakery' etc

Just looked normal and kind.

That’s honestly why I gave him a swipe. We’re married two and a half years with a baby on the way

Swipe left- any ‘travelling’ photos that involve captive dolphins, drugged tigers or ‘rescued’ Asian elephants.

Also for me he has to be 5'11 or taller as Im tall.

A bit of humour, shared interests, a variety of photos. I like a rugged but reasonably well kept beard/facial hair. It's great hearing that others like the opposite, shows we're all individuals. I don't mind a bit of timber either.

@SmidgenofaPigeon

Just looked normal and kind.

That’s honestly why I gave him a swipe. We’re married two and a half years with a baby on the way

Swipe left- any ‘travelling’ photos that involve captive dolphins, drugged tigers or ‘rescued’ Asian elephants.

Same. DP's main picture was just a selfie but I thought his eyes looked really kind. The rest of his photos were a nice mix of shots of him on nights out with friends, or doing hobbies, and a sneaky one of his cat. One of my pet hates came to be profiles solely consisting of selfies - always made me think that they were either married or had no mates to take a photo. DP's photos made him look sociable and friendly, with no daft poses (or fish, or tigers!)

His profile was just a little bit about himself and what he was looking for. Very honest and straightforward which is exactly what he turned out to be!

I got so jaded with OLD before meeting DP that I used to swipe right on the drugged tiger ones just so I could give them a proper telling off if we matched!

@category12

Clear pictures, decent bio, shared interests.

This and a dog.

What is 420?

This and a dog.

Nope, no dog for me, thank you. I think we established this truth (for me) in the other thread. That's a left. Maybe I will pause if it's a well-behaved one, but if it's licking the face, swiiiiiiiipe. .

@Getbehindme

What is 420?

Marijuana.

Oh you learn something new every day!

What is 'timber ' ?

Well my v recent ex wrote a lovely bio, great pics, and has quite frankly been amazing for the majority of our relationship. He wanted a future and all was going well. The he backtracked, seems it was all some game..5yrs..it hurts.
I don’t know what I’d look for now as if he can pull the wool over my eyes who do you trust?

A genuine smile
A straightforward bio

@Abhannmor

What is 'timber ' ?

Generally means carrying a bit extra weight, often used to describe footballers or boxers towards the end of their career as in “carrying a bit of timber these days “

anything you post will give them clues, on a public forum, to mould themselves into Mr Irresistible so they can get their end away or continue to behave like total knobs on the internet

Not posey, decent bio that includes a line on what he’s looking for - e.g. would like to meet an educated woman with an interest in crows (not literally - but it shows he’s willing to narrow the field to meet someone more suitable). Good spelling and grammar. It doesn’t have to be perfect but it has to be 90% of the way there. Someone who looks happy in themselves.