When DH randomly grabs at your boobs

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Does anyone's husband just randomly touch/jiggle/grab at your boobs?

My husband does this sometimes and I hate it and he gets offended when I push him away. ''Why are you pushing me away, I can touch them, they're mine.'' he would say.

'No, they are not yours, they are mine and I don't like it.'

'Oh, so now I can't even touch you anymore' #guilttrip

What makes a guy think that all women would take pleasure out of that sort of behaviour, or that one would just stand there and let them have a feel because they are somehow entitled to to it.

Maybe I'm a bit prudish, but I expect more respect than that, especially from DH. Randomly grabbing at women no matter how familiar the relationship is just a big no.

Agree. Gross.

I'd be punching him in the dick until he got the message, arsehole. You are not prudish, he's doing it despite you telling him you don't like it , he's sexually assaulting you OP and thinks you should just suck it up.

Can you leave?

So many red flags.. Sorry but I do not think this is acceptable on any level.

My dp will come and grab me from behind. I love it. It makes us both giggle.

’I can touch them, they are mine’

I really don’t think I could be with someone who had that attitude towards women. It’s disgusting.

If you have told him no and he’s done it again then you really should get out of that relationship.
It’s sexual assault. Nothing more, Nothing less.

My exh did this and it has followed me into other relationships, if they looked like they were heading that way I would push their hands away.

It's disgusting behaviour to keep grabbing someone when they e told you not too, they e asked you to stop and when they e got to the point of having to swat you away.

Ugh. You don't want it, you've told him repeatedly. What a twat for ignoring your boundaries.

In what context will he do this,just randomly out of the blue with no lead up?

Not sure I'd want to be with someone who said my boobs were his.

I've never been with anyone who did that. It would disgust me, they're not his to grab. Plus boobs are sometimes painful or sensitive due to monthly cycles. Ugh.

If you've said you don't like it that's enough. He should respect that. You are not his property.

My boyfriend mindlessly grabs and fondles me - BUT that’s because I like/don’t mind it. If I ever tell him to cut it out he’d do it in an instant and not make me feel bad about it.

Your feelings matter, whether he agrees with them or not (so yea, he’s a bit of a dick).

I'd be kneeing him in the 'nads each and every time he did it. Hard. I'm sure it wouldn't take too many goes for him to make the necessary connection that my body is my space, and if he tries to appropriate it, it's going to be very painful for him.

Grab his dick out the blue and give it a twist- that should do the trick

This is sexual assault. He sounds pathetic.

"They are mine."

WTAF?!

This is about consent OP. If you don’t want him to do it and have told him he should stop, no ifs, no buts. Also your boobs don’t “belong to him”. However, some couples are very tactile. My DP and I playfully grab each other(provided nobody else is around). It isn’t wrong only if the person being touched, doesn’t want to be.

My husband does this and honestly, I don't care. The only time I tell him to stop is if they get a bit sensitive, but he'd respect that. Equally, I touch him, but we're in a consensual relationship and both give implied consent. If that changed, it'd be different.

Mine does but I've no problem with it and I reciprocate in some degree or another. If I told him not to, he wouldn't do it.

Some women might be okay with the random touching but what stands out is the 'mine' comment. If that was said in jest, it could just be an 'in joke' but clearly it isn't. I'd be concerned that he saw my body as his possession.

Wrong attitude, it's a concern that he thinks he has automatic rights over your body, just because he's a DH. Groping is sinister behaviour and about themselves getting off, nothing to do with seduction, no thought for a woman's feelings or enjoyment. I think most women and men know that stroking tantalises, whereas groping doesn't actually feel good at all and can often induce pain.

For me, touching my breasts outside of sex when turned on, is ticklish and annoying. My bf doesn't do it but 2 of my exes did and my bum. Yuck.

My bf comes and gives me a hug or a kiss sometimes. Much nicer and sexier.

Smack his dick every now and then and see how he likes it.

No as it's grim behaviour.

Nope nope nope.

If dh grabbed at me like that I'd be grabbing his nuts as hard as I could and smiling sweetly at him.