Shall I have a baby with him?

[Lovethatjourney]

I'm in my mid 30s, desparate for a family, but can't help feeling like my relationship has run it's course. Lovely guy, treats me well, good job, we have enough in common and I think we could have a good life together. I'm just not sure I'm in love with him. Sex is ok, and could probably improve in time. What would you do? Would you settle? I think I'd always regret breaking it of in order to find my soul mate and then ending up alone... Is the grass greener at this age?

How rocky are we talking? If there is drama, arguing, etc, I'd say maybe end it and keep looking.

If it's fine but you think there could be more, I'd say stay. Who doesn't dream of their absolutely perfect dp - but it doesn't exist. Are you really in love, well what is love anyway? After a few years no one "loves" their partner in that way anyway, it's a hormonal impossibility.

Especially as you get older, I just don't think this type of relationship exists. Occasionally you get an early-mid 20s couple that are just crying with how much they love each other on their wedding day. But 30+ it's much more down to earth.

I was in a somewhat similar situation and I stayed. I love being a parent and I'm so glad I chose this path. I didn't want to spend the next 5-10 years (or longer), dating, worrying about men, being hurt, ghosted, laughed at, bored by them. I was ready to move on with my life.

I believe I would do it.

You could marry the love of your life and he turns out to be an abusive knob.

Do you actually like him as a person and as a friend?

I'm a bit confused about the rocky comment vs you saying you're both committed get on well.

Aside from that comment, my advice would be to go ahead with this man.

Be aware though, you having to drive the big decisions will likely continue abd there'll be more of them.with kids.

As long as a man steps up in terms of work and childcare, I think that him being laid back is a good thing. I argued with my ex about everything, he would not let me take the lead on any decision ever, even choosing cushions for the sofa. Nightmare. Give me an easy going guy any day.