My husband is usually caring and considerate, I am 17 weeks pregnant and last night he annoyed me so much!!!
He went out to the pub in the afternoon with his friend to watch sport. He usually gets the last train home when he goes out drinking, so arrives around 12:30am.
I went to bed at 10pm and text to say I had set the house alarm, but left the chain off the door. He read it (2 blue ticks) and didn’t reply. I didn’t think anything of it, cos he was out having fun.
Until I woke up at 1am with no sign of him, so I just sent a text asking any idea of his ETA? Again, this was read and ignored.
I woke up again at 2, with him still not home and started to really worry. So I rang him twice and he didn’t answer and text him, which he again read but didn’t reply.
This is so out of character, but I knew he was alive - as he was looking at his phone, so I decided to put the chain on the door, as I had no idea of when he would arrive home and was starting to get quite angry at this point.
He eventually knocked the door down at 3:30am. I left him outside for a bit - spiteful I know, but I was angry and upset that he had chosen to ignore my messages. Then when I let him in he called me a bitch and we had a big argument - mainly led by me as he was too drunk to even string a sentence together.
He has never done anything like this before, he usually texts to say he’s on his way home and if he’d said he was staying out and when to expect him, I wouldn’t have been so worried.
I know I sound pretty needy, but we do live in a city with high knife crime and very recently a family friend went out into the city drinking, was stabbed and died.
I have come out shopping for some space today, but I really feel like he needs to be ready to apologise when I get home.
He is always saying how he calculates the risk of Covid and possibly bringing it home to me, but I feel like I was the last thing he was thinking of last night. He came in, got right into our bed and lay right on my pregnancy pillow - full of germs- so I went and slept alone in the spare room.
I am really upset and angry with his behaviour, which is so out of character and hope this isn’t a sign of his personality changing with me being pregnant/the responsibility of becoming a parent.