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What do I do?

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nurserynurse97 · 23/07/2021 14:22

Help needed.

Backstory - early twenties, five year relationship. Partner has children with ex. I take on the role of SP and have done since early on.

Working and studying full time also.

So! I'm nearing the end of a two week break in which we had my partner children for. He worked the first week and took second off. He has fished, golfed, had nights out and all that jazz. I've had a ten minute shop in primark and even that was cut short because the kids can't behave.

I've recently come to the decision I think I'd like my own children but I can't deal with how spoilt his kids are and how much they get away with.

I feel like I've missed out a part of my younger years and I'm starting to feel resentful, even though it isn't his fault. But we never do anything g outside of having the kids. We don't go on holiday, go on trips and I have to bully him into coming into Tesco park with me! There's obviously so much more to it but my question is:

Do I leave him or am I just having a 'moment' and should I shut up and be happy someone's settled with me?

Any advice welcome.

OP posts:
QueenBee52 · 25/07/2021 01:38

Chose YOU ...

don't compromise on your dreams for someone else's happiness .. 🌸

Anordinarymum · 25/07/2021 01:53

@nurserynurse97

I'm struggling to find the power to leave. I isolated myself when we got together so I don't have any friends outside of our social circle. I love him I really really do and we have some lovely times together. I am just giving the shitty versions I suppose. How do you find the courage to say no and go? I've never lived my adult life on my own and I'm absolutely terrified
You say you have never lived your adult life on your own but here you are on your own looking after his children while he goes off having fun.

You sound pretty capable to me and I think you would have a great life if you got away from this domestic prison you have found yourself in.

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