New Partner- Extreme religious views

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I need your views Mumsnet!

I went on a second date with a guy today. He was so lovely we got on amazingly well and had a lovely time.

HOWEVER!

On the way home he said he had to tell me about some 'baggage', he used to be dead religious meaning-

• he used to want to be a vicar

• he thought gay people and gay marriage etc was morally wrong

• he thought abortion was wrong

• he didn't believe in sex before marriage and didn't have sex until he was 31 (34 now and I'm 33 if this matters)

He said he changed his views in 2014, and he seemed thoroughly ashamed. Since then he had amended his ways and now donates to gay charities and has taken part in pride, is pro choice etc.

He said he told me so that I had the choice of whether to continue seeing him again because it put some women off.

Not to drip feed but I am bisexual, very liberal, have had lots of sex with no regrets and very open! I am a strong feminist and pro choice (step mum is a gyne who performs abortions). I am a firm atheist and have good LGBT friends and a trans sister!

His previous outlook is so foreign to me!

I don't know what to think!

HELP!

I don't see why it would put you off much if he has changed his opinions, whhich presumably he has, as he says he has. If he was anti-LGBT he'd be unlikely to be dating a bisexual (assuming you've told him you're bi.) but what he's said is enough really IMO.

Did you come out as bisexual and risk the rejection of family and friends? I guess he was doing the same with you, only coming out as a Christian, not announcing his sexuality. He has stated that he does not think or feel as he used to. Surely that’s a conversation worth exploring just for your own curiosity? Personally, I think he sounds pretty brave telling you everything like that. I would rather hear it straight on the first date and make up my mind before I get too attached than months later find these things out after snippets have trickled in.

I think it's a line. How can I get this woman to think I'm the most amazing, liberal, tolerant supportive guy that she wants to shag me. Oh I know, I'll tell her and I'll make it convincing.