Boyfriend watches porn and just doesn’t seem interested in my body.

[Anotherporn1]

I’ve been with him about 9 months.

He says he needs to masterbate every night to relax and sleep and watches porn to do this. I do not like porn.

I went to see him last night and he played with me (basically because I asked) so I thought I’d return the favour. He wasn’t really very hard so I said to him your not really into this are you. I said it’s probably because you play with yourself so much. He said yeah I played with myself last night to a video of lesbians. He started to tell me about it and I said well the mood is spoilt now you can find a video and finish yourself off as it’s spoilt the mood for me.

When I see him he doesn’t seem to wanna touch me or turn himself on, is this me or does he watch to much porn, he watches every night if I don’t go over. It’s really started to effect the way I think.

Wow don't put up with this. Get out now x

Bin him. He won't change.

No way would I hang around for this.

Blimey. Dump the loser.

Ugh. No, I wouldn't bother with him anymore.

NEXT!!

It’s starting to make me feel unattractive l.

Yes he watches too much porn and it does/will ruin real life sex lives. The habit won't be easy to reverse. I'd just move on you should be in the honeymoon phase having sex all the time still

He’s completely disrespectful and I can’t imagine it will improve. You can do much better than this compulsive willy fiddler

Dump dump dump.

Ive always found porn addicts are generally terrible at real sex as they have a warped view of the edited/ rehearsed and fake bullshit that goes on in pornography.

Leave now, it won't get any better.

Porn has ruined an entire generation of men IMO

Two words for you:

Death Grip!

Also check these studies out - porn basically fucks with neurochemistry and so has to become more and more extreme for it to elicit a response from the consumer. It’s very messed up and at the heart of it are a few very very rich companies and investors.

www.yourbrainonporn.com/

Ps. You don’t need to put up with this sort of behaviour from your partner.

This is who he is and how he is. Either resign yourself to a sexless future while he wanks over porn that objectifies and belittles women or get out now. If he had a lot of otherwise excellent features that might be worth considering but the fact he wants to describe his porn to you - presumably thinking you might be turned on by it - and you've only been together for a few months I'd drop him and move on.

@Anotherporn1

It’s starting to make me feel unattractive l.

Surely it's making HIM unattractive to YOU?

Run like a wind. I married a porn addict because I was blind to the seriousness of his issues. Now I'm preparing to file for divorce.

Why are you with him?

He sounds like an absolute plonker.

I wouldn't bother talking to him again.

I was at it at every opportunity 9 months into my 12 yr relationship.

Get out while you can I.E. before you have a child and feel like you can't leave so easily!!
What a sad, revolting man. He sounds like a teenager.
You're worth so much more then this

Absolutely repulsive. Please OP, choose a healthy future for yourself and leave this relationship.

Porn is having a catastrophic effect on people’s sex lives. I know it’s not the “cool” thing to say but I truly believe it.
It’s having horrific implications on what (mainly) young males expect from their partners.
Horrific implications on their treatment of their partners.
Horrific effect on their physical ability to get aroused.

Move on and find someone who isn’t falling down this rabbit hole.

Sounds like he has a porn addiction. If you're not happy with this I would leave sooner rather than later. He doesn't sound like he wants to change unfortunately.

When I say I feel unattractive I feel unattractive to him, like my body does not turn him on as I don’t look like a porn star. I don’t want to feel this even if it is not the intention.

And yes it’s giving me the ich thinking of him wanking over disgusting videos.

So he's a wanker.

Find someone more interested in you than wanking.

He has battered his penis into a coma and doesnt care enough to stop.

Leave him. even if he re-engaged emotionally he will forevever be rubbish in bed.

Ew no. Leave him to his videos.

It's only been 9 months, he should be still all over you, dump him and find a man that appreciate