Boyfriend watches porn and just doesn’t seem interested in my body.

[Anotherporn1]

I’ve been with him about 9 months.

He says he needs to masterbate every night to relax and sleep and watches porn to do this. I do not like porn.

I went to see him last night and he played with me (basically because I asked) so I thought I’d return the favour. He wasn’t really very hard so I said to him your not really into this are you. I said it’s probably because you play with yourself so much. He said yeah I played with myself last night to a video of lesbians. He started to tell me about it and I said well the mood is spoilt now you can find a video and finish yourself off as it’s spoilt the mood for me.

When I see him he doesn’t seem to wanna touch me or turn himself on, is this me or does he watch to much porn, he watches every night if I don’t go over. It’s really started to effect the way I think.

I’m wondering if we’re going to have a generation of men who won’t know what to do when they have sex with a real woman 😕

It's not you, it's HIM

Here is my advice: dump the wanker and find someone else.

Why are you still with him?! Get rid!!

Well yesterday I got fed up with him always squeezing me in between his work.
Another thing that makes me feel shit so I very eloquently like a lady does in her late 30’s told him to go fuck himself!

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Yes! Well done! I was just reading this wondering why you were still with him?! Onwards and upwards!

@Shellady
I was just trying to point out that in my 20’s my partners were in their 20’s, 30s in their 30’s and so on, now in my 50’s , I have a partner in her 50’s, just trying to add some context, but you seem to be offended by that.

Sorry, the applause worked in the preview!

Well done!!! If he didn't feel blessed to have a lovely real woman in bed with him and make an effort to please her and receive pleasure from her over a video then you were absolutely right to leave him to his porn.

Dust yourself and smile because someone will want you forvypur mind and body when you are ready for it.

Please don't be tempted to take him back. He's inherently lazy and juvenile!

Dust yourself off*

Well done OP.

Great to read a thread where someone calls time on a relationship before letting their self esteem and confidence be eroded

I can’t be bothered with relationships anymore I always end up feeling crap.

I think I have the same point of view as you anotherporn1 in that if my me and my husband split (I caught him watching porn and our relationship has not been the same since), I would not seek out another relationship. I have dc though and heading for 50 so in a slightly different place. Prior to my husband, I was let down by someone who couldn't commit and then I look around at some of my friends husbands and the way they are treated and that is none to good either. I have only to look at my extended family (males) and realise that four out of five of them have been abusive in some way. As name suggests tired of it all.

Well done, don't give this clown the time of day again.

Well done on getting rid.

It's sad generations are being ruined by porn.

Well done OP

Glad you ditched him. He’s obviously addicted to porn and has death grip, very sad.

Congrats OP on breaking free of this waste of space
You’re infinitely better off and from here on things can only get better and better

Well done, OP.

Well done leave him to his porn. 💐💐

You must surely be aware he's interested in porn but he's not interested in you. That's the bottom line. I think you should gain some self-respect and leave him to it. You're less than a year in, so it's not even a long-term relationship. But it's up to you if you want to put up with that, of course.

Never let a man see you're so desperate you'll consider staying with him even when he displays the most abhorrent behaviour. It won't do you any good.

@Shellady

you still reinforce a preference for younger or think younger is somehow better in your posts

I don't. You think that because you have twisted the meaning and taken it personally. It's clearly touched a nerve with you. I really can't be bothered to explain my post to someone who is unable to think objectively, put themselves into the mind of another person (another sex) who might have ideals that are different to your own. This is what writers and actors do. It requires imagination and the ability to suspend one's ego. It could be applied to any situation.

If you want to provide me with stats that disproves my assertion, I'd be very happy to take that on board. In fact, I would love to be wrong. But I refuse to not talk about something just because inconvenient to my ideals or clearly triggering to someone like you. Just because you assert something, doesn't make it go away.

If you lack the I.Q or imagination to understand this, then I don’t honestly think there more I can say.