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Anyone actually enjoy giving BJs?

124 replies

Loveandlust · 12/06/2021 18:16

Sorry to be crass but OH and I are at a point where we've had our 4th baby within the last 6 months and my self esteem regarding my body is pretty low but I'm working on it. We hardly ever have sex and neither of us seem to mind as we're both knackered. However we have talked about it and feel like we probably should make more of an effort. I just cannot bring myself to do all those things like BJs, different positions etc like when I was younger. I'm not sure I ever loved doing those things tbh. When we do have sex it's ok. Is this just tiredness??? Anyone actually enjoy giving BJs? Does the spark cone back??

OP posts:
Themeparklover · 13/06/2021 03:09

with any exes I pretended to like it, I just get a kick out of being able to make them c*m

BlueButtercups · 13/06/2021 04:30

@Themeparklover

with any exes I pretended to like it, I just get a kick out of being able to make them c*m

Im pretty sure most could manage that themselves too 🤔

Justa47 · 13/06/2021 04:47

@Loveandlust

Yes luvvvvvve giving them

Inthesameboatatmo · 13/06/2021 05:43

Absolutely love giving a bj,one of my favourite things to do.

Sunflower1970 · 13/06/2021 05:55

Love doing it as makes hubby happy, which makes me happy

Heartofglass12345 · 13/06/2021 12:35

Yeah I do, it turns me on. Especially when we're giving each other oral at the same time

osbertthesyrianhamster · 13/06/2021 12:37

I love giving them but I hate 69 and won't do it.

BlueButtercups · 13/06/2021 12:39

OP you should also remember ...

People who do not enjoy them.. will likely not respond to this Thread... as they will likely be Challenged ... as to how desperately cruel and unfair they are to their partner..

So I'd take this Thread with a pinch of salt.

🌸

Justkeepleft · 13/06/2021 12:39

I like giving a bit but the deal is he doesn't finish in my mouth. So there is always a towel ready.
It helps that either I am very good or he just finishes quickly. It is efficient for when I not on the mood but still want to connect sexually

Sakurami · 13/06/2021 12:43

Yes as long as I'm with an attentive helpful and loving partner in all aspects of life. Otherwise no.

CookPassBabtridge · 13/06/2021 12:45

I enjoy the feeling of giving pleasure but there is nothing in it for me, it's not great having something go in and out of your mouth like that. It's a selfless sexual act.

Greenfinger39 · 13/06/2021 12:50

By a first time poster who couldn't post in the Sex threads as they are new. Well done all on giving someone wank fodder. Envy

Colourmeclear · 13/06/2021 12:59

I hate them, mostly from a bad experience with my ex. I feel too vulnerable and silenced I guess. I trust myself not to bite down hard but don't trust men not to push it too far and restrain my head during.

There are still things you could explore about what you like and don't like but it depends on why you are doing it, if it's to tick off on your list of things to do or going in with the idea of exploration and play. If you're both happy with where you are at the moment, you dont have to change anything but just have an openness should something crop up and you think that might be exciting and discuss together.

Hallyup6 · 13/06/2021 13:18

@nolovelost

How can you not like recieving? Maybe you're with the wrong partner!
Personally, because I suffer incontinence issues after kids and I am incredibly self conscious about it.
Original poster
Loveandlust · 13/06/2021 13:40

@Greenfinger39

By a first time poster who couldn't post in the Sex threads as they are new. Well done all on giving someone wank fodder. Envy
What does this mean??
OP posts:
AnnieSnap · 13/06/2021 14:05

@Greenfinger39

By a first time poster who couldn't post in the Sex threads as they are new. Well done all on giving someone wank fodder. Envy
I don’t understand your post either I’m afraid 🤷‍♀️
jadpnh · 13/06/2021 14:15

My favourite thing to do in the bedroom, Always enjoyed it.

QueenLagertha · 13/06/2021 17:08

I love it. Always swallow, doesnt bother me. DH will often ask me for a quick BJ. Love receiving too but can't orgasm that way even though he is great at it.

cocoloco987 · 13/06/2021 17:15

By a first time poster who couldn't post in the Sex threads as they are new. Well done all on giving someone wank fodder.

Tbf 'wank fodder' is freely available all over the internet. It's unlikely someone would bother trawling the relationships board of a parenting forum

LindaEllen · 13/06/2021 17:21

I do. DP loves it and it really turns me on to see HIM turned on.

RaeRaeMama · 13/06/2021 17:31

I do

BlueButtercups · 13/06/2021 17:34

@Greenfinger39

By a first time poster who couldn't post in the Sex threads as they are new. Well done all on giving someone wank fodder. Envy

oh 👀

19Bears · 13/06/2021 17:51

I used to hate it and avoided it with boyfriends for years, having thought men's bits were awful. Never given one to my DH and he's never given it to me.
But when I found someone I really wanted to give it to, crikey I found my way. Not together anymore, and that is the main thing I miss. His d* was beautiful, and I loved seeing how it made him feel.

Bogocz1 · 02/09/2022 20:22

Try stopping for a minute or two and kissing / stroking his legs and balls. Use your hand and mouth alternately

Sandcastlesinthesky · 02/09/2022 20:31

2 years post second baby my libido is in the toilet. It’s hard to get the energy up for any of it.