2008 is MY year!

[Dior]

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come on then wassup?

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No, sorry, I already have dibs on 2008.
It certainly can't be any worse than 2007.

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Aw, I remember after I had lost 3 stone at WW I felt great... I walked into the local shop & the old woman came running out from behind the till & congratulated me..... on the birth of my baby apparently!!

I came home & sobbed & sobbed that she had ever thought that of me & that was after I had shed the weight.

Lou, are you back home again? All repairs carried out?

Hi Dior - nice new thread!

I used to feel that with XP - we'd have a huge row followed by a long discussion, me getting all tearful, then we'd agree how things were going to go on. two days later everything would be back to normal.

I hoped your H would be different, as youd gone so far with the solicitor.

Maybe you need to point this out to him before it goes too far?

And what does he mean its not all on your terms? OK youre not expecting to have everything youre way, but he's got to realise you were planning to leave for a reason.

yes i am fff2

dior i sensed you werent sure

it seem to boil down to the same old thing again doesnt it

Sharing sounds good xx

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i mean the insecurities in your relationship , not that it is actually happening

but things are making you wonder

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of course it does

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you dont sound too convinced right now

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how long do you usually have pmt and how long has it lasted this time?

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sleep well x

Morning, how are you feeling today?

Oh and next time he moans about what your eating - ask him to give you 5 good reasons why you shouldn't eat it.. his answers might be very telling. And if he can't answer you tell him not to moan about it then!

Dior, just a quickie as dd is being a bit demanding.

Just wanted to say, H won't change all his negative behaviours overnight and whilst I don't defend the "disappointed in you" stance he has made some big leaps since "the talk".

not feeling 100% in yourself isn't going to make you especially understanding of his perspectives either.

shoot me if i'm wrong, but i think you're a bit pissed off with yourself and his attitude has just fanned the flames and also allowed you to retreat into your old "don't control me" defender position.

it's already been said but you need to talk about it. explain to him how his attitude affects you. he might actually mean that he's disappointed for you rather than in you but he needs to learn how to articulate that without attacking you.

hope you're feeling better soon, blood tests sound like a good idea. i'm having some next week.....

Oh Dior

I think you just papered over the cracks with that talk. Nothing's really been resolved has it? I thought at the time when you were "telling" us about it, you just sounded so flat.

Within days you were getting flustered about G again. Believe me, that is not the action of somebody that really wants to continue in their relationship.

Come on then, what do you want for 2008? You can be honest!

Dior I 100% agree with everything paddlechick says.

And Raffaella is right - you did seem a bit flat when you were telling us about it all. As though you want it to work out, but don't actually believe it will - iyswim.

Is your heart really in it? What do you really want for 2008?

It's going to take time for him to change. And the only way that will happen, like you say, is if you keep communicating well. You said yourself last week that you were pretty horrible and snappy towards him. And he then makes a comment (totally out of order of course), but then you get defensive and the whole vicious circle starts again. Do you feel that you are both doing this for the right reasons? (Not just because you think you should or because you're scared of the consequences of separating.)

{{{hugs}}}} you sound like you need them