DH 'slipped' and fell on me

[Mistyplanet]

Don't know what to make of this whether im making a mountain out of a molehill or there was intention to hurt me. This evening I've come back from 5 days away with dc and my parents (holiday). Dh and i often don't get along but hes seemed fine this evening and generally making an effort. Dh was finishing settling our son upstairs but he wouldn't go to sleep so he brought him back downstairs hes 3. I hsd been relaxing on the sofa for 10 mins on my own. Dh came over as if he was going to sit down on the sofa but somehow fell so his full body weight went on my arm and shoulder. It really hurt so i shouted OW GET OFF ME! really loud. He kept saying he slipped but tbh i didnt see that happen i was looking at my phone so its possible but just seems weird to fall on me so hard like that. Also he didnt seem that apologetic just muttered sorry but kept saying he slipped and acted annoyed that i had shouted. After that he just sat next to me still really close not saying anything while i was sat in pain. I eventually got up and took my son to bed. Now i dont feel like going back down stairs for the evening and im going to sleep instead. Ive just started to wonder if he did this intentionally or what as it seems such a strange thing to happen and surely he should be more concerned that hed hurt me and apologetic? Please help.

Was he a bit miffed he couldn't settle ds and took it out on you?
I would have been more mad he had brought the dc back down -

I suppose it could be possible- although it happens quite often with ds as he prefers to be breastfed to sleep and we are trying to get him out of it.

What do you mean you don't often get on?

Please help.

I think you should probably leave. You are in a relationship with a man who you do not trust.

Seems odd that you think he would do it on purpose, has he done similar before?

We regularly have arguments and theres an atmosphere between us.

I think it's fairly likely if you're suspicious of it. Trust your gut and all.

First i believed it was an accident but im wondering why he didnt seem more caring that hed hurt me badly. Just seems more annoyed that i shouted. But it was almost involuntary cos it just really hurt!

Tbh it wouldn't occur to me to doubt my partner saying they fell on me, and to even consider they'd intentionally hurt me. That's pretty dark.... has he hurt you before physically? Does he normally lie?

Tbh I'm not sure I'd want to be with someone who thought me capable of hurting them intentionally either. So unless he has hurt you before (in which case, you need to leave), I would consider why you suspect he's lying about slipping on you.

Accidents do happen, but rarely. As in once a decade rarely. So if these “accidents” happen more frequently, then I’d be suspicious too.

Odd and unpleasant. Is he reacting to the fact you've been away?

Trust your instincts. I’d let him know that you know he did it on purpose and you’re not putting up with anymore of his shitty behaviour

Why are you with him if you don’t often get on and are so suspicious that he would intentionally hurt you? It doesn’t sound like a loving, respectful relationship

Did he know how much you were hurt?

@Mistyplanet

We regularly have arguments and theres an atmosphere between us.

Why are you together?

I think he probably did it on purpose. His reaction after it sounds odd. That's what would make me suspicious.
Did he get hurt too or just you?

It sounds like a normal reaction from him. He tripped and landed on you. It hurt. He said sorry, you shouted. I'd be pissed off if I tripper and got yelled at.

My dad actually stumbled and fell onto my neck a couple of weeks ago (I was on the end of the sofa). My first reaction was ARGH but then I checked he was OK. I wouldn't expect him to keep apologising for an accident.

Accident or not, the lack of empathy would be a good reason to leave.

Has he accidentally hurt you before?

Doesn't sound accidental

Seems like he did it on purpose. You say there's an atmosphere, you went away, came back, he couldn't settle your DS and then this happens. Seems like he is angry/bitter and 'fell on you' on purpose.

You need to split up with him. You can't trust him. You need to think about you and your DS.

You were hurt and he didn’t show empathy
Instead, he was annoyed that you yelled at him to stop hurting him. I agree that this was intentional. Time to protect yourself and your children and to make a safe plan to leave this man.

Your young children will be unsettled as the atmosphere of tension and frequent arguments that you describe would make them feel insecure.

Sounds to me like he was punishing you for resting while he had to settle your son.

Accidents happen. You'd know if this was won.

But this relationship is over. You don't like each other. He sat seething at the end of the sofa after hurting you. It's time to stop doing this to each other.

Ive been upstairs on my phone since writing on here. Hes since come in the room to get some clothes but it was dark so i didnt acknowledge him and my ds is sleeping. He has since text me that i must be very busy chatting to important people as ive got no time for him. Ive text back that you didn't seem to care youve hurt my arm and hes text back "ok keep chatting". (??)

In terms of hurting me in the past hes done things like groping me on my bum which has hurt but when ive told him to stop hes been irritated and complained that he cant touch me. Ive told him you can but not in that way. He continued to do things like that despite knowing i didnt like it. He has stopped this for a number of months though. But maybe this is why im wondering if hes done this on purpose. I didnt contact him as much as he wanted when i was away as i needed to think about our relationship. I was wondering if we should split up. But since coming back today i thought hes being nice and we are all happy so decided to forget those thoughts. Now he is angry again.

*if this was one.