What to do?

[Oscarbin]

Soooo got drunk last night, and woke up and the bf has been awful to me. I remember going to bed and going to sleep.
Now he's ignored me, but I've came over I've poured my heart out, asking what I've done wrong? I've apologised, I don't know what for.
I've never ate all day I've been sick. And I feel bloody awful.
I've cried so much at his and not even a cuddle. I have said sorry soo many times. I don't know what what to do.

(His brother said I was fine last night)

@Blanca87

You need to get a grip of your emotions, leave him to it. See how you feel tomorrow. Honestly, it’s like he is getting off on some power trip and sending you into anxiety overload. This is a real big red flag. An emotionally regulated person would talk through anything you may have done to upset them. He seems like he is punishing you and emotionally abusing your state of mind. I fear this relationship will bring you no end of grief. How long have you been going out?

I know I'm messaging on here instead of messaging him. I don't even know why i drink. I might see if I can get to the doctors tomorrow, for some anxiety help

Stop apologising and start getting angry at what a prick he's being.

How manipulative and mean not telling why he's giving you the silent treatment. You can do better. Throw this one back. Believe me, you don't want a man who behaves like this, its only the tip of the iceberg.

Maybe i have done something really bad tho

OP a maybe you have maybe you haven’t why did you ask his brother if you don’t trust his answer. You have to be the grown up here, tell him he gets one more chance to explain his behaviour otherwise you are going to leave him and mean it. Life is too short for these controlling twats to have such a hold on people. Anxiety is probably exactly die to his treatment of you. Believe in yourself and get this s**t off your shoes

He would probably let me go
I could tell today

@Oscarbin

Maybe i have done something really bad tho

If you had his brother would’ve said so, or he can just speak up and tell you, sounds like he’s just being cruel and manipulative tbh.

Stop apologising, he’s being a prick - does he do this regularly if you’re enjoying yourself?

@Oscarbin

He would probably let me go I could tell today

Sounds like you’d be better off without this bullshit in your life, has he done this kind of thing before?

Stop saying sorry you can't say sorry when you don't know what you are sorry for! What your partner is doing although he probably doesn't realise it is gaslighting. You may you may not have done or said something but if he doesn't have the balls to call you out on it just leave it and let him sulk. You can't go around getting yourself in a state worrying yourself out of your mind on all the possibilities of what it is you have done. Have yourself a nice bath stop crying keep your head high and don't allow yourself to be treated like that.

I know. Just in bed watching a movie! Trying to relax myself.

Feel like the worlds worse person

He is on a power trip perhaps. You've not actually done anything terrible which is why he can't answer when you've asked what supposedly happened, but he's enjoying watching you grovel.
You deserve better.

You're not the world's worst person. Hre is being a total arsehole towards you, punishing you and won't tell you why. You've cried and apologised (even though you don't even know what for) and he still won't tell you.

What kind of bastard does that to someone?

No wonder you suffer from anxiety.

If you had done something really bad I'm sure he would have told you. I think what he is doing to you is terrible, clearly the hangover is messing with your emotions & he is making that worse when he should be comforting you. I really think you should give up drink for a while (saying this as someone who got the black dog every time I drank), get your emotions together & then decide what to do with the asshole

I had a friend who married a man who was like this...every time she went out and got drunk without him, he acted like a cunt with her. Same thing, just being nasty as hell the next day and making her feel like she'd done/said something wrong - she never had.

My friend had the sense to see his bullshit for exactly that, and wouldn't put up with it - the marriage lasted less than 2 years.

Stop crying and tell this arsehole to fuck off.

I know still awake now! Thinking the worst

This sounds really toxic. oP stop crying and asking him what you've done, it all seems very unhelpful and manipulative.

Maybe he was just tired and hungover?

If I was feeling a bit ropey, even if was my own fault, having someone around me sobbing, vomiting, questioning me and demanding hugs would get on my last nerve.

He sounds horrible... stop apologising and get rid of him

You have posted about this guy before. Ignoring you when he feels like it and giving you the silent treatment.
He doesn't sound like a nice person.

@Spartak

Maybe he was just tired and hungover?

If I was feeling a bit ropey, even if was my own fault, having someone around me sobbing, vomiting, questioning me and demanding hugs would get on my last nerve.

I wasn't sick at his house, I went back over later on in the day. I was sobbing because I was sorry, sorry for I don't know what.

@sadie9

You have posted about this guy before. Ignoring you when he feels like it and giving you the silent treatment. He doesn't sound like a nice person.

I know, I just can't stand the thought of hurting and upsetting him

You sound a bit desperate to be honest. Did you say you had children? I think they should be your priority not behaving like this

@Sunflower1970

You sound a bit desperate to be honest. Did you say you had children? I think they should be your priority not behaving like this

Yes they were at their Dads.

Sounds like what my ex used to be like with me whenever I dank. I suffer with anxiety and depression and I would worry whenever I had a night out planned as I knew he would be vile. When we split he said it was because his ex used to cheat on him on nights out and guess why we split? Because HE cheated on me.
You need to take a step back here OP. This is a major flag. You have done nothing wrong whatsoever.

It's just horrible not knowing anything

When I had a boyfriend who gave me the silent treatment for something I was unaware of i broke up with him. He changed his tune and apologised. Stupidly, I took him back. It's never a good sign though and wish I'd ended it completely. Apparently I'd kicked him in bed. I had been asleep!