I've just been dumped by text

[navys]

I've just been dumped. By text. After 4 years. I can't get my head round it.

Very sorry to read this OP. It happened to me, nearly twenty years ago now, ended things by email. We had only been together a year but a year is long enough to be in love and I was. I obviously don’t think about it any more on a day to day basis, but when I am reminded of it, such as now, I still feel angry and have never forgiven. I only think of of him with a mixture of pity and contempt for being such a spineless arse.

Message to say he has a week to come and collect ALL his stuff at a mutually convenient time. If not collected, do you have a garden or a large bin?!

Total radio silence.

He is not worth any upset.

Weak little man.

It speaks volumes to his character.

When you feel stronger, explain to your son sometimes things don't work out etc.

Be kind to yourself.

Do not worry about his stuff.

Gather and dump.

If you were nasty you could remove some key nuts on his bike.

Nothing dangerous but annoying all the same🤣 (sort of joking😉)

blackbin his stuff - put in the garden and send him a photo .
no words .

[quote navys]@litterbird How did you cope? I can't even think straight at the minute. [/quote]
I didn't cope well I am afraid but he never knew as I went radio silent with it. He was seeing someone else and I never knew. I couldn't go to work on the Sunday but I vowed I would never take further time off due to his wankerish behaviour. Like you, a very close relative had just died, my father was ill with dementia and I was raising a tricky teenage girl. It came at the worse time. I just fell apart behind closed doors and eventually seeked therapy which was the turning point for me. It took a while to rebuild myself. It did damage me but I came out good and have had some wonderful times over the 6 years he left. I have been seeing someone for 18 months which has been nice. Not sure if its long term but it has helped me move on permanently. Sadly, I do not trust any man who comes too close to me now but I still give my all in any relationship as much as I can. You will be knocked side ways for a time but going radio silent was my saving grace. He did try to return many times. He blamed it on a mid life crisis.

What a bastard. I came home to a note on the kitchen table telling me he'd met someone else. We'd been together 14 years. Thankfully not married & no kids.

You deserve better OP. Agree give him a date to collect his stuff or you're binning / charity shop donating it all.

My ex fiancé and who I still refer to as the love of my life dumped me over AOL messenger
(Showing my age)

@iklboo Ouch I bet that hurt.

Today has been an official disaster. Keep bursting in to tears then having to run to the loo so my son doesn't see. He thinks I've got a cold as my nose is bright red from blowing it so much. I've eaten nothing. Got a banging headache. And this is only day 1!

The amount of debt he left me in hurt worse! He did me a favour in the end. I met DH & had DS

@navys

I've got a bloody great bike in my hall! I've moved it in to the conservatory for now but I'm sure he'll want that back as it's new. I'm not sure about the rest of his stuff.

Put the bike out in the garden, you're showing more respect for his belongings than he's shown for you and your feelings.

Block him, don't worry if he wants his stuff he'll find a way of contacting you.

You're allowed to be upset, it's not just the loss of the relationship it's the shock of how it's been done. Accept the fact that you need to grieve the relationship and the fact that this tosser is obviously not the man you thought he was.

So cowardly to do it like that, I was dumped via Facebook.... Looged on one morning to find lots of notifications because "I was single" knob jockey!!!

Get all his stuff and leave it outside, you owe him nothing.

Hi OP. Sorry to hear you are down. I've been dumped 3 times by text so I understand what it's like.

It does get better with time. It's a cliche but true and you are better off without him

I'm a bit bemused as to why you didn't link the story of your January thread to this one, if nothing else, for context.

You were given great plaudits back then (rightly so) for not responding to someone who is that gutless they dumped you by text and arrogantly told you "no need to reply".

Now you're on this new thread saying you've been dumped by text. Clearly a lot of water has gone under the bridge from January until now when you've allowed him to pull the same stunt on you. Why expose yourself to the hurt when you knew full well what kind of non-human being this numb skull is. Surely his card was marked?

As the saying goes "Wrong me once, more fool you. Wrong me twice, more fool me".

@daisychain01 I just searched and navy has no history in jan?

@daisychain01 Sorry, I'm totally confused by your post?

Daisychain I think that's a completely different poster. Someone just linked the thread to help OP.

There was a very similar thread a few months back and also involved a new bike.... I think she thinks your the same poster.

@CombatBarbie Ah ok. I had no idea what they were talking about.

Looks like I'm not the only woman who's been left with someone else's bike then!

Fair enough - except it was ambiguous as to what the connection was. Apologies if so. In a way I feel heartened that it isn't the same person, because that would have been absolutely depressing!

I hope the OP just blocks and moved on, without a further thought. This idiot is yet another example of a 'spineless wonder' without the common decency to end the relationship in a dignified way.

@daisychain01

Fair enough - except it was ambiguous as to what the connection was. Apologies if so. In a way I feel heartened that it isn't the same person, because that would have been absolutely depressing!

I hope the OP just blocks and moved on, without a further thought. This idiot is yet another example of a 'spineless wonder' without the common decency to end the relationship in a dignified way.

It wasn't ambiguous, other people (not OP) shared links to that post because they thought it would help her to read about someone who had been through similar.

@daisychain01 - - people were simply trying to help by showing a previous thread where the same thing had happened. Not the same poster.

It's also from 2020 @daisychain01

I woke up after 11 years and having just moved country with my "d"p to be told bluntly it was over and i had to leave to go back to the UK. Not quite a text but seriously unexpected and blunt. No discussion allowed. It hurts so badly but i promise you, you will get over this.

@penfold2020

I woke up after 11 years and having just moved country with my "d"p to be told bluntly it was over and i had to leave to go back to the UK. Not quite a text but seriously unexpected and blunt. No discussion allowed. It hurts so badly but i promise you, you will get over this.

I had similar but not as long. I didn't leave, though. I found someone else to marry (I loved the place more than that cunt). He got all pissed off about that, like I gave a fuck.