Turn on or not?

[Beadsandfelts]

DH says the following type of things to me and I don’t really like it, but I don’t know if it’s how men in relationships talk to women and if most women would like it?

• I want to slip you a length
• I’ve got a present for you in my trousers
• get your knickers off and lie back and think of England for three minutes
• I want to knock the back out of you
• you’re mine and no one else gets a go on you
• this is a nice piece of ass
• once I’ve had the snip you’ll be like my little sex slave

It gives me the ick. I actually think it’s more than that, I feel like I’m property.

I think if my OH said any of those to me I'd just laugh in his face and tell him how he'd just turned my vagina to dust.

Sounds like a 17 year old virgin who's only experience of sex is pornhub and an old sock 🤢

"get your knickers off and lie back and think of England for three minutes"

Well at least he is honest

But seriously, life is too short to be treated like a walking wank sock.

It's not you. He's vile. His language is incredibly objectifying.

I'm not averse to that in the right circumstances... I'll often tell DP that I'm "his" and he should "have his way" with me but that's based on mutual trust, respect and understanding. He's also incredibly considerate of my needs in bed too.

What your man is doing is disgusting. You get nothing out of it and he is treating you like a masturbation aid.

I'd be inclined to buy him a flesh light and tell him "That belongs to you, so you can dump cum in it whenever you wish. I do not."

I get this
Can I put my cock in you
This is for you (crotch in face)

Slip you a length is a new one on me though.... seriously icky

Not all men are like this. Some are. It's not great is it.

@cookiecreampie

Me and my husband sometimes say this type of stuff but it's more tongue in cheek and light hearted with us both mutually flirtatious. I don't find it threatening. I think if he's not respectful to you in your day relationship generally then it's not OK.

I'm not sure...

‘whose is this nice piece of ass? It’s my nice piece of ass’

...is actually in any way flirtatious or meant to be. It's not even meant for her ears. It's more something a man with serious self-esteem issues would say in a bid to make himself feel like an "Alpha male". 🤮

In which primeval swamp did you find this creature? Seriously, he is a misogynistic abomination. He’s using you for sex - and doesn’t give a shit about you.

Eugh. I don’t see how the relationship can come back from this. Having DC doesn’t mean you have to be unhappy or disrespected. It would be generous to explain and give him a chance to change, but please don’t continue to put yourself through it if he doesn’t listen.

Ugh.

He is the kind of man who thinks sex is something you do to women, not with women.

Objectifying, violent in tone and about power and ownership rather than mutual enjoyment. That's why they make you feel uncomfortable.

You need to end this relationship because men like this hate women. They think we are for their use, not their equals.

Turn off. I'd be telling him to stop that kind of talk, disgusting.

Awful every single phrase. I get none as it is but these would not be a turn on full stop.

They are just not sexy phrases in anyway

Does he understand that sex is something you should both enjoy?
Or does he just want to Fuck you. As in treat you like a hole to masturbate into.

It's grim comments. It's a revolting attitude.

Once the rose tinted glasses are off and you start seeing things clearly like you are, feely dirty (not in a good way), feeling vaguely threatened, you are feeling the ick,

Once you have the ick, you only notice more and more and will like and respect him less and less.
You may as well start planning your leaving, it'll eventually happen, the younger the kids the better.

Don't waste your youth having shit sex and being treated like a personal sex toy.

Every one of those made me want to barf. Like a cross between a back-street pervert and a vulgar seaside postcard.