First date- he wants to give me a foot massage- weird? I refused

[CordeliaGrey]

Ok I am probably being naive but swiped right on an ok profile with smiley pictures. On his profile he says he gives fantastic foot massages- great! But is that a signal for something? He also says he does not like vanilla on a profile.
We exchanged numbers and had a ok phone chat yesterday. He called again today and we arranged a coffee and walk type thing. However he did say he had a request and could he give me a foot massage when we met? I laughed and no and it was a bit weird to request that during our first meeting and inappropriate. I did not want get my foot out to a stranger. He said let’s leave it and hung up.
He is weird isn’t he? Or I should have picked up the clues?

The clues were definitely there OP.

Oh dear . You should have read between the lines

Yeah, the clues were there. I imagine even more so if you know foot fetish code!

If it’s not your cup of tea you’ve definitely dodged a bullet.

Uhm yes...the clues...were there.

(I’m old)

Sorry OP!! He said he likes giving foot massages and is into non vanilla in his profile. He was openly looking for someone to indulge his penchant for feet!

Ok I feel stupid and a bit embarrassed.
I just thought he meant the vanilla flavour! I know I know.
Have blocked him. He was keen to give me his number and he had a reasonable job and everything.
This online thing is a bloody minefield

@CordeliaGrey poor you! Yes, I don’t think I could stomach it, tbh.

and fingers crossed you find a good’un!

Weird, but god I miss a good foot massage

I wish my boyfriend would give me a foot rub, even if he does he’s crap at it. What’s this guy’s number?

You dodged a bullet there 😅

Eww! You dodged a bullet. Clearly he has a foot fetish, but the bigger issue is his expectation that women he’s never even met, exist to provide him with sexual services. What a creep!

I'd get off tinder and try one of the more serious websites! I met the least weird people on e harmony xx

Poor you OP but you certainly gave me a good laugh!’ They are all out there— at least he’s up front even if he is a bit of a heel!!!!!

...at least he’s up front even if he is a bit of a heel!!!!!

I see what you did there!😆

He is a foot fetishist

I just thought he meant the vanilla flavour!

I think I love you a bit

@Queenoftheashes

I wish my boyfriend would give me a foot rub, even if he does he’s crap at it. What’s this guy’s number?

I'm more worried about what he was going rub your foot with 😳🍆 There are some right weirdos out there. Love a bit of vanilla 😇

How was he going to manage the foot massage whilst on a walk?

It's a signal for being a foot fetishist.
And not liking vanilla means he's kinky.

You time waster you.

Would have been more of a hop than a walk if he had a hold of one of your feet.

Well I knew what it meant but my DH definitely didn't. I've just had to explain non vanilla to him - he assumed the same as you OP

Aww, bless you OP. You live and learn!
I've come across a few weirdo's in my time on OLD.
One liked tights, even put it in his bio. I thought nothing of it. We got chatting and all quite normal and then he mentioned again that he liked tights.
Me- Yeah, ok.
Him -No, I really like tights.
Me - OK.
Him - So, will you wear tights if we went on a date?
Me - WTF, it's summer mate, sod off!

So you thought he was an adventurous cornet type of guy OP?

You've really made my day.

@RLOU30 But I did! Ahem you single?

Glad I had given peeps a laugh!

Hahhaha

Good sense of humour OP.

At least the guy was open about it - I had a foot fetish guy on bumble who started off normal (no profile cues) and just randomly went into a monologue about what he wanted women to wear, including "slightly damp feet in high heels".

I imagine there was something slightly damp and clammy that night

I think non-vanilla, DTF, "call me daddy" etc are all cue words? I tend to google if I don't know as I'm not really down with the kidz and all their slang.