Would you take this as a compliment or an insult

[Sparkles556]

I’ve posted a couple of threads in the past regarding dp but I’m at the point now where I seriously need to have a long hard think about our relationship and what I want. We had this conversation last night (I’m the first person)
“My mum said it looks like I’ve lost a little bit of weight”
“Where?”
“I don’t know she didn’t say”
He didn’t say anything for a few minutes then said
“I was looking at pictures from a few years ago (we were in salou this time 3 years ago) and you’re not as fat as you were back then but you’ve got more cellulite now”
He seems to think this was a compliment but I’ve taken it as the total opposite. I have very little confidence in myself, but lately I have seemed to gain a little bit but now I’m back to having none at all after that conversation. I don’t know if I’m being sensitive and I should take it as a compliment like he says

@Whatsforteax That is so true! People will always find faults. It’s like I said to him, you have said I’ve lost weight (he didn’t even say that in a nice way) why couldn’t you just leave it at that? Why bring the cellulite into it? I don’t care anymore what people think of me because what you do will never be good enough for some people and will always find some kind of flaw xx

Oh god. He's dehumanising you, you are not a menu of parts to comment on.

So you say. My logic is when an individual loves themselves no one’s opinions can hurt you . If someone can’t see the benefit in living that way then it’s on them. I don’t need anyone’s validation regardless. If you can’t see that then it is on you however unpalatable you find it. People should start living their own truth and stop worrying about other people. You’re responsible for how you feel. Sorry you don’t understand that but that is your problem.

Exactly. If people find fault with you that’s on them but how you respond to comments is on you . It is very freeing when you take responsibility for how you respond to crap that happens. I live by the motto that life happens for me not too me. Shit will happen sometimes but how I respond to it is up to me. I am not a victim.

Honestly beautiful actresses have cellulite. Show him some celebrities in bikinis with cellulite. Tell him all women have it. Because we do. Stretch marks. Cellulite. Moles. Freckles. Wobbles. Rolls. Hair. Scars. We are human beings. He can't possibly be perfect himself lol.

I have honestly had to thicken my skin. Until I was 28 it really got me down. Now I'm 32 I have accepted it and think oh well I am me. I let it go over my head. Especially because it's always said by someone who isn't flawless themselves.
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