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Original poster

Just want to talk about what happened this evening

45 replies

OnlyEverZac · 08/05/2021 23:01

Managed to pluck up the courage and called DV line but was busy.

I just want to be able to finally talk

OP posts:
Lottieeshborn · 08/05/2021 23:02

You have a voice.... use it! Not meaning that in a patronising way, saying as a Whoooo, use it girl x

katieak · 08/05/2021 23:07

Would it help to talk here?

anothermonthbitesthedust · 08/05/2021 23:07

@OnlyEverZac what happened this evening

tinatsarina · 08/05/2021 23:09

We aren't busy, there are loads of us here ready to hear you. Flowers

Blacktothepink · 08/05/2021 23:10

We’re listening.

whippitwoowoo · 08/05/2021 23:11

It’s a brave step. I wish it was available in the 90’s.
Mumsnet could’ve helped me recognise abuse.

EvilOnion · 08/05/2021 23:12

I see you.

Well done for recognising your situation and picking up the phone. That was a very big (and very scary) first step to freedom. 💐

Blacktothepink · 08/05/2021 23:17

Lots of us here have been where you are now Flowers

Onthedunes · 08/05/2021 23:23

We are listening and many will be here all night.
Brave lady.
xx

Mylittlepony374 · 08/05/2021 23:25

You're very brave to make that call. You can do this.

peachcherries · 08/05/2021 23:28

That takes so much courage OP. Please keep trying. There are several DV helplines you could try. Have a Google if you don't have all the numbers
You deserve to be free. You can do this OP.

JetBlackSteed · 08/05/2021 23:30

Good for you! Talk here meantime?

MrsOrMiss · 08/05/2021 23:30

Well done OP!
You've got this lovely.

Original poster
OnlyEverZac · 08/05/2021 23:34

All I asked was what he gave LO to eat earlier, he muffled something, so I asked again, he replied aggressively choc muffin. I questioned why because LO not had any dinner or much throughout the day as hes been ill. And it just started from there. He told me to shut my fucking mouth, called me a cunt and more. All because I asked him why he gave LO a chocolate muffin when hes not had dinner. This is a constant occurrence, I can never question his parenting or shall I say lack of it.

I got annoyed and answered back and questioned why he keeps giving LO junk when it's his dinner time. He fed him coke and crisps. Again he told me repeatedly to STFU or he will throw his cup of tea over me. I got up stormed off to the kitchen to clear up but kept talking, he got my water bottle and hurled it towards me, then threw the remote at me, then the ketchup at full force, then he got the glass bottle to throw and I stopped talking. All this was done while he was holding LO

OP posts:
Dragongirl10 · 08/05/2021 23:39

Hi op👐
He sounds horrible and abusive and while holding your child... so very glad that you have reached out...we are listening..

ScabbyHorse · 08/05/2021 23:40

What the hell? That is awful of him. Has he been violent before?

BeenHereForAges · 08/05/2021 23:45

Call them again OP.

You & your baby deserve so much better than this.

Good luck to you.

BlackDaffodil · 08/05/2021 23:55

Keep safe OP, and keep trying the DV line 🌸💕

Original poster
OnlyEverZac · 08/05/2021 23:58

He has previously hit, kicked and punched me. Dragged me off the coffee table when I went to open the window during an argument, he threw me to the floor and I landed awkwardly on to my knee, I could not get up and had to beg him to help me. A few days later he head butted, my nose would not stop bleeding for hours I begged him to take me to A&E eventually he did. I had put I knee support strap as my knee was still in agony from the days earlier. I remember the doctor checking my nose to see if it was broken and then she started questioning me about my knee, I made out like I was ditsy and smiled, I remember her looking at me with a raised eyebrow. I wish she asked me more because I would have cracked

OP posts:
shetlandponies · 09/05/2021 00:00

Keep trying the DV line

We are here and listening

How old is your child? Your partner sounds absolutely awful. I've been where you are with a nasty abusive man who was also a shitty useless dad. and we successfully left ...was one of the happiest times of my life breaking free.
you can do it too x

Igmum · 09/05/2021 00:02

Keep calling them. Can you report him to the Police now? I've been there and my biggest regret is not pressing charges. Believe me it will be so much better when you are free from him. Are there friends or family you could go to? Thanks

faithfulbird20 · 09/05/2021 00:02

I was going to say maybe something else is going on or that was normal behaviour he saw as a child and it's not okay. However ur last post about head butting etc omg I'd leave!!! He needs to get proper help!!

faithfulbird20 · 09/05/2021 00:04

This kind of behaviour is NOT OKAY especially in front of a child. You need to leave...

Embracelife · 09/05/2021 00:04

Report
Next time tell the doctor the truth
You can Say "can I speak to you privately?"
Hiding it helps no one you need to leave tomorrow if you can without alerting him
Could you take baby to friends or family tomorrow?
Then call from there.
He is going to hurt you again and baby too.
There is help

Embracelife · 09/05/2021 00:06

You need to report so he does not get unsupervised contact in future