Just want to talk about what happened this evening

[OnlyEverZac]

Managed to pluck up the courage and called DV line but was busy.

I just want to be able to finally talk

Well done for seeking help Contact the Police get him removed YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THIS

For now keep charged mobile in pocket and quietly get a bag together with bank cards etc baby stuff so you can leave

Are you safe at home tonight OP?

If you can't leave now then try not engage with him unless necessary and make sure that he doesn't catch on that you're reaching out on line or by phone.

Also agree with others, if it's safe to do so - maybe when he's out or in the bath/shower/anything that'll give you privacy. Pack a go bag but try to keep it or of sight - just the basics to tide you over at a relative's/friends/woman's aid house until you can get a helper to retrieve everything else.

Phone charger, ID/bank cards, birth certificates, plus a few bits for you and for your DS.

Does he become aggressive only when you question him, or does he become violent over nothing.

No violence is acceptable op and you have done nothing wrong.
It is not your fault in any way, this is not how it should be.

You are doing the right thing to speak up about it, don't let it be a secret anymore.
x

I have a very stifled relationship with my family and had a difficult childhood being raised by a single mum who experienced DV. Despite her experience of marriage she would rather I be in a marriage than not. In her eyes it shows the world that I'm a decent girl despite being from brought up by a single mum.OH witnessed similar in his family, and resulted in his mother leaving him and his siblings. He has told me he remembers his mum get beaten and his mother beating him.

If you dont get through to helpline tonight, can you get to a pharmacy tomorrow and ask to speak to ANI ? I believe this might help you, perhaps another poster can give more details on this - you don't deserve to live like this no matter what your mum thinks

Are you safe right now?

do online chat?

honestly sorry too fast last post back.i meant online dv chat.is there a local womams aid no?call it.you need out/him gone.you are so fkin brave facing it.no aswer is off putting but you KNOW it has to stop/police are ABLE to help.cant count on it being effective at anything more than worsen situation.that said ..and in the moment even the thought of thems horrendous...said it cos its true...google local womans aid...so tonight he threw things and missed.dont wait on next time..your worth way more than that

You are strong
you can break the cycle
For your baby
Ask for ANI BootsPharmacy Scheme

If you approach a member of staff andask for ANI, that staff member will assist you into a private consultation room. They will then help you with your next steps, whether that be contacting the police or accessing support through a domestic abuse organisation, such as Next Chapter

Op you can do this even without family support.

There are resources out there.

Thank you for sharing your story. Wishing you well

He is awful
Just awful

Police can get the hospital reports for you and you can say you were too scared to tell them what he did to you

Terrible man

In front of a child too

You must take this further

I did and I'm so glad I kept going with it
He CAN NOT have your child unsupervised
It can't happen which is why you must engage all agencies

Please do

Get a diary and keep it safe
List everything
Get legal advice

Get the basta-- removed from the house
It will get worse trust me

Oh OP, this is dreadful. I am so sorry you are going through this. It is nice to be married to a good man, but there is no shame at all in leaving a violent wife-beater and child-abuser. Your mum is completely wrong in her view of this.

Please keep trying the helplines, and speak to the police if you possibly can. It is awful and dangerous for you and your child to keep living with this vile abuser.

How are you OP?

Dear OP you cannot stay in this relationship any longer. I am sure you understand that. You have to get out immediately.

I am so glad that you posted. You know this is not ok but it takes so much courage to say it out loud. Are you thinking about leaving or are you not quite there yet? Either way, be careful, risks tend to increase for women and children when they are preparing to leave. I hope that you know you deserve to take that step and DV services (as well as remote support here) can help you to do that safely. There is a strong relationship between men abusing women and them physically abusing children. He has already emotionally abused your child in what he has done. I’m so sorry you are in this situation but hope that soon you will be free.

@OnlyEverZac

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