Yes he's stopped letting him down, in fact has gone the other way in some respects and wants him all the time. I went for fixed days. Which is better.
But then he will quite often ask 'can I keep him tonight' (as he has him every afternoon with his dad too) and generally, I don't really have the heart to say no. I tend to try and be flexible as long as it doesn't put me out (i.e. if I have plans with ds I'll obviously speak up and say no).
So he's having him anything between 1 and 3 nights a week. Plus every afternoon. All day friday, and saturday afternoon.
I work full time so I literally get to see him for half an hour in the morning, an hour before bed (when he's tired and grumpy), and then the weekend
It's hard.
H definitely has the better deal here.
He sees him all the time. When he's at his best.
And 5/6 nights a week to do whatever he wants with whoever he wants.
Anyway, enough of me rambling!
Sounds like the flight with the 3 boys will be hard work. I remember that tiredness so much. It's a killer! Hopefully the boys will be on their best behaviour!