The two year anniversary of my ex hitting me for the first time passed recently, and I didn't even notice. I count that as a personal win, because I am no longer measuring my life in the time spent away from an abusive man.
But two years ago, I started a thread. I asked for help, and I got it. I got support and reassurance, and strength, and I left an abusive man the moment he laid a hand on me.
He was emotionally and financially abusive before he hit me. He used coercive control to keep me small for nearly 20 years.
But starting a thread on mumsnet, the day after he attacked me, helped me more than I could ever say.
Now? Now I have a career. I've just got a full time job paying more than I ever thought possible.
I have a healthy relationship.
My dc are doing well.
I have navigated the process of divorce and family court and I've come out the other side whole.
I am so, so grateful for this space and the women who cheered me on and helped me find my strength.
My life is better because of you. Thank you.