Baffled by Reaction

[Noodle765]

I’m Moving out of a rental property which I shared with exH 5 yrs ago. When he was here, he drilled holes in the wall for his computer stuff, bought large outdoor storage boxes for his motorcycle stuff and put up a wooden slat in DCs room.
I asked exh if he could sort out the above before we move and he replied rudely.
I’ve been seeing someone for 4 months & mentioned the above exchange.
He replied with: “needy ex wife”
I thought he was joking, so I sent a jokey reply back.
He responded with “I’m serious”
So I explained how it’s important to me because I want to get the tenancy deposit back & if the tables were turned I would leave the property the way I found it.
He replied with “Don’t make excuses. That lot could be done for about £100. I feel like u need a reason to keep in touch with your ex. Most people hate their ex and for £100 or so would gladly pay it rather than have to deal with them.”
Is it just my pms, or is that response a bit harsh and odd? (Just wanted some sympathy from him to be honest. First time doing a move completely on my own with DC)
For the record, I ONLY communicate with ex re DC, can’t remember a non-DC text conversation with him.

Text the boyfriend back and say ‘Do you know what you’re right! I don’t need a man at all! Hurray! Thanks for showing me the light!’
Then dump him

Does he normally speak so roughly to you? I was trying to tone down my response, as I struggle with rough- sounding men, but then I read that you were a doctor and I wondered what on earth you are doing with someone who talks to you like that. He sounds as rough as a bag of nails and pretty thick to boot. Full of cliches and not shy of applying to them to women, isn't he? Sounds as though he's been round the block too many times and thinks he knows all about women and their exes.

Seriously, ditch him. You can do far better. He's an embarassment to you.

Your ex is being a pillock. Whatver he owns in those boxes can go to the tip!

Your new bf is mor concerning. You said you have kids with ex? Is he going to be like that every time you have to have contact with the ex? He sounds far too immature, self absorbed, unhelpful to me!

As others have said, one more text "Thanks. You are right. Men are so unecessary" and then block him, permanently!

Thanks everyone, I was wondering if I was being overly sensitive, but I suppose not. And believe me, I know that my exh would use any communication from me as an opportunity to insult/attack me, so I avoid asking him for anything.
On balance, it seems like this relationship isn't for me. Other niggles are that he repeatedly tells me that he couldn't care less if I were a cleaner. Whilst I agree education and career isn't a measure of a person (I'm dating him, aren't I), it did feel like an insult to my 9 years of training and the physically, emotionally and mentally draining 30 hour shifts for years of my early career.
He also sulks & refuses to speak to me for any perceived slight. I get the sense that he feels the world is out to get him.

Oh he’s clearly got a massive chip on his shoulder about your career and qualifications. Big red flag. Dump dump dump.

Whilst I agree education and career isn't a measure of a person (I'm dating him, aren't I)

So let me guess, he doesn't have any education other than the "university of life", he works somewhat peripatetically, and he has various exes/children without having been previously married or not married for a number of years? And all the exes "shafted him" or similar?

Yes, he sounds like the type who would target a doctor and try and get her nicely under his control so he can benefit from the salary and job security.

He is basically the same sort as your exh.
Might be worthwhile for you to do some reading on how to spot abusive sorts. Because it sounds like you're taking a little bit longer than ideal to spot them. Still though, at least it sounds like when you see it you know enough to query the behaviour! Which is great news. Hopefully you'll never get saddled with one again. But you've got to be extra careful once you've had nasty sorts in your past.

Ooh! Yuck! Your update makes it seem eminently sensible to dump him. That isn't at all attractive is it?

Your ex is a twat.
Your BF is an ever bigger one.
They can both get fucked.

Tell that silly man to go out with a cleaner then. Being a doctor is admirable from any point - the time, effort and dedication it takes to become one as well as the fact that your job manages people's pains and ailments and he is a pathetic little man not to admire and appreciate what you are.

He also sulks & refuses to speak to me for any perceived slight.

Oh come on. This one is a bottom feeder. GET RID.

@YoniAndGuy

He also sulks & refuses to speak to me for any perceived slight.

Oh come on. This one is a bottom feeder. GET RID.

After 4 months.

Oh come on.

Really OP?????

😂 Was too busy to actually think about it, but yes really!

Good woman.😁

Cut your loses and if it is a shared refund then he will lose his portion.
You asked the response was not helpful,
So leave it.
Ask the landlord to come and price it before you leave the property.
This shows how men behave when they have jealously issues.
Personally I would have repaired it within a month of him leaving the hole.