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Am I too suspicious?

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Caffeineprincess · 08/04/2021 14:17

Ok so I have been through a couple of mills and do not want a repeat.

I've been with this guy since the end of July last year. It been for the most part pretty lovely. We see each other every other day, met each others kids, always talk on the phone, have keys to each others houses etc etc.

But I've noticed a few things. he gets lots of work calls but quite often when its a womans name on display he wont pick up while I'm there, although he picks up most other calls. Sometimes these calls are pretty late, due to the nature of his job not unusual but still I don't have men calling me at say 11.30pm unless emergency...

I've noticed he also has some women's names saved with the fire emoji next to it.

And yesterday he removed a tag of himself of a post I put on facebook, thanking various people in my life as had a bit of a crazy start to the year. This tag was there since feb but it disappeared yesterday and when I asked him he got very angry and defensive and said it wasn't him and he doesn't know how it happened. He has since deleted Facebook. ( although I know this has to be a lie)

he also had tinder installed on his ipad still a while ago, I asked him about it and he deleted it but got annoyed at me that I asked about it.

I have also had someone create a fake facebook profile and message me about him.

Whenever I try and talk to him about it, he gets annoyed and angry, says I do not trust him and then says he will spend less time with me and keep his weekends to himself from now on or he'd be happier single and similar.

Ok so fair enough when I saw he removed the tag ( pathetic I know) I did get angry and raised my voice a bit, but didnt swear or say anything rude. we had a couple of arguments. But I apologised for my reaction and he accepted it but refused to come a visit me that night as planned.

He has had issues with me and can be very aggy and rude. I feel like I'm always apologising.

I do love him, and do want to give him the benefit of the doubt but would any of you question the above?

OP posts:
Caffeineprincess · 03/05/2021 19:29

Just to let you all know. I did dump him. I also had someone message me on Instagram saying she was seeing him too. He maintained it was a crazy ex but too many coincidences.

He didn’t bat an eyelid. As soon as I told him he came to swap keys and stuff back. Then called as he forgot his bottle of Hennessy and wants to come back for it and then he said delete his number.

OP posts:
GreenDahlia · 03/05/2021 21:14

@Caffeineprincess

Just to let you all know. I did dump him. I also had someone message me on Instagram saying she was seeing him too. He maintained it was a crazy ex but too many coincidences.

He didn’t bat an eyelid. As soon as I told him he came to swap keys and stuff back. Then called as he forgot his bottle of Hennessy and wants to come back for it and then he said delete his number.

good for you, leave his bottle at the door.

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