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Original poster

Does your partner do this

86 replies

Utterlybutterly1 · 06/04/2021 18:47

Dp went to friends house for drinks early evening on Saturday, stayed the night and didn't arrive home to after 6pm on Sunday. Is this normal behaviour for men with partners and children?

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NeverMetANiceOne · 06/04/2021 18:47

No.

Dropdeadfred2 · 06/04/2021 18:48

No

MerryGoRoundBrain · 06/04/2021 18:48

No it is not!!! DP would be dead if he did something like that. Unless there’s a massive back story, of course.

BumBurnerBum · 06/04/2021 18:48

No. You know that too. I would be cross.

LubaLuca · 06/04/2021 18:50

No, he's never done that. My husband was in his 30s when we had our first child though, so kipping on sofas and weekend-long benders were well out of his system.

FaceyRomford · 06/04/2021 18:50

No.

GoToSleepBabyPlease · 06/04/2021 18:51

No

KurtWilde · 06/04/2021 18:51

No. My exh used to do this a couple of times a month. Phone switched off after the time he'd say he'd be home so I could call and ask when he was coming or even check if he was ok. It was highly immature at the very least and massively disrespectful to boot.

HastingsIsSuckingDiesel · 06/04/2021 18:52

No.

If he has drinks with friends locally then he walks or gets a taxi home.

Sometimes he'll go and see mates who live further away - in that case he'll either get the last train back if there is one or stay over at theirs but leave in the morning/ by lunchtime.

And I'm fine with that- I do the same when I see my mates- and we always discuss it first to check the other one hasn't already got plans.

Original poster
Utterlybutterly1 · 06/04/2021 18:52

There is no back story. This happens often but doesn't usually stay away that late the next day.

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KurtWilde · 06/04/2021 18:52
  • COULDN'T call
Maybe83 · 06/04/2021 18:53

Yes in our house once its agreed in advance.

We have nights with our family or friends away or drinks and stay over at friends or family. We would often get home in the afternoon or evening the next day. This would be a couple a times a year for each of us.

We wouldn't generally stay out all night without prior agreement but have sometimes with a text to let the other person know.

MadeForThis · 06/04/2021 18:58

Never. And I wouldn't do it to him. It's called respect.

1FootInTheRave · 06/04/2021 19:00

No.

Fromneverland · 06/04/2021 19:04

Eh no!
He’d be out the door. God knows what he could get up to In that time

MrsKeats · 06/04/2021 19:08

No i would be phoning the police it would be so unusual.

LivingDeadGirlUK · 06/04/2021 19:11

No my partner would always call, if he didnt come home I would be calling the A&E departments/police as it would really worry me.

SunnyLovesCassie · 06/04/2021 19:13

No.

Original poster
Utterlybutterly1 · 06/04/2021 19:13

Would I have been unreasonable to put him out of the house?

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Blueskytoday06 · 06/04/2021 19:17

Nope

ProfessionalWeirdo · 06/04/2021 19:28

No.

SweetAsANutt · 06/04/2021 19:43

No, never.
I wouldn't put up with it either.
Staying out fine but not returning for nearly 24 hours... that's just weird.

TheJerkStore · 06/04/2021 19:44

Not normal behaviour.
I would have been furious.

optimistic40 · 06/04/2021 19:44

I think it's ok, but not without mentioning it. Did he message or anything? I'd be a bit worried if a live-in partner / husband just didn't come in. And then annoyed if they were fine but couldn't be arsed to let me know.

Goatsgetmygoat · 06/04/2021 19:45

Sounds like drugs were involved

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