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Does your partner do this

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Utterlybutterly1 · 06/04/2021 18:47

Dp went to friends house for drinks early evening on Saturday, stayed the night and didn't arrive home to after 6pm on Sunday. Is this normal behaviour for men with partners and children?

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Imjustsootired · 07/04/2021 20:52

Nope. Disrespectful.

Also, excuse the cynic in me but are you sure he is where he says he is, overnight?

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Utterlybutterly1 · 07/04/2021 23:38

@Imjustsootired this has also entered my head.. but I'll never know so I'm not going to dwell on it.

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Northernlass101 · 08/04/2021 01:19

Definitely drugs / probably coke classic lads go to someone's house for afters don't sleep all night and then end up passing out on sofa then coming home when drugs wear off

Totallyfedup1979 · 08/04/2021 02:05

Absolutely not.

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Utterlybutterly1 · 08/04/2021 06:48

@Northernlass101 could be likely as he did that before we met. He told me he stopped when he met me. Hmm

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BadMudda · 08/04/2021 06:49

Oh I would have been furious.

No way would I put up with this .

Lozzerbmc · 08/04/2021 08:09

I think you’ve done the right thing but its natural to have doubts. He was meant to be a partner to you but he wasnt was he? He hasnt shown commitment re marriage or buying a house and making a life/future together. He’s more interested in himself and to stay away overnight whilst one of his children is unwell? That is not acceptable. That is not how a loving father behaves. You are better off without him though I know it will be devastating. Make some new friends via DCs with other mums.

You’ll be happy again in future & without the angst and disappointment he brings.

notacooldad · 08/04/2021 08:12

Nohe has never done anything like this but I occasionally wish he would.
This is only because I wish he would let his hair down and put himself first for once.
I've got no young kids and I've plenty to do so I would be fine once in a while with it.
However I can't see him changing. He's too much of a homebird!

Northernlass101 · 09/04/2021 00:28

[quote Utterlybutterly1]@Northernlass101 could be likely as he did that before we met. He told me he stopped when he met me. Hmm[/quote]
It's so common my ex always did this and so did all of his friends! It's like they don't grow out of this phase. I don't think he is cheating or being dodgy I think he is definetly "on the sesh" so many friends partners with kids are stuck in this phase!

Need to give him a ultimatum Biscuit

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Utterlybutterly1 · 10/04/2021 15:43

@Bluntness100 I am having doubts but I'm not sure if it's because I'm worried about my dc having a new woman in their life.

None of this is bothering him at all.

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funnylittlefloozie · 10/04/2021 15:46

No, its not normal. What do you want to do about it?

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