He dated 10+ women at the same time - revenge?!

[Danielletracey]

Hi guys, please help. My best friend just found out her boyfriend of 2 years has been dating at least 10 other women while they were together (some of them as long as 2-3 years). They are all talking and upset. Any idea how to confront him? Figure some revenge? They are all worried he will continue that with others, or maybe there is even more women ... advice appreciated! Terrible story !

She decided to message his Instagram followers when she was suspecting cheating and so many women came forward with “omg I had no idea we’ve been dating months/years”. He just looks like he will ghost them all and try to escape the situation ...

He must be exhausted, but I admire the stamina.

I’m suspecting he doesn’t really have a job... can’t see how he managed that many!

I'd suggest a group viewing of "John Tucker Must Die."

I hate to say it but he’s not (or was not) her boyfriend, especially if some of the other women predated her. Of course he will carry on doing it and I doubt this is the first time he has been caught out.

How awful, he couldn't have given her much time. If it wasn't for COVID they could arrange to meet him and all turn up!

Can they orchestrate a mass dumping followed by a girls only party to debate all the finer details of his sexual failings? Maybe one could volunteer to send a summary of findings onto him.

He was very organised so managed to create schedule around all of them. He would see one during the day showered and went to spend night with next one . They all had at least one night /day during the week. Some went holidays with him, introduced families ....

Oh they could really have some fun with this.

What a scum bag!

Theres only 7 nights in a week....

Get them all to dump him individually without letting on they know about other women with something like 'I'm sorry, but you're shit in bed so we are over'.

take out an ad in the local paper?

Does he know they know?

Because if not then perhaps the best thing would be for each of them to - over the course of a few weeks - to tearfully tell him that although he is a lovely man they just can’t live with his terrible body odour problem anymore so sadly they are going to end the relationship.

Put some money together take out an advert in the paper detail his failings

How grubby.

Unfortunately he knows they know...

If they all live nearby is organise a get together with friends. Garden party.
Get him there first to give a hand and one by one the others turn up.. you introduce them as a friend but no-one actually confronts him until all the women arrive or plan one hell of an embarrassing situation for him

Some if not most of the women must have known they were not dating exclusively. They are probably trying to save face now that their 'situationships' have been exposed.

Why are we pretending this is real?

Some of them weren’t exclusive yes(he was going for relationship with them)! But there are 4/5 that had serious relationship with him - talking about kids,future, introducing families...

It is real!

Add all his female relatives to the group chat and ask them if they think this is a great way to treat women and if not to either re educate him or except that there is a significant chance he will cheat on any future wife future girlfriend or future mother of his children.

The best thing is to ghost him.
The rest can too. Delete and block him on everything.
That will bother him the most.

It seems pretty common for younger people to date multiple people non exclusively. The number is high but not super unusual tbh. Misleading lying and manipulating is definitely not on though.

Did your best friend think they were exclusive or was she just surprised at the number.