Sporty people dating non-sporty people?

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Just wondered if this happens much at all?

I've had someone basically make it known that they like me. On the one hand, I do feel the same - we don't know each other very well but we seem to click, chat easily, feel confortable together and make each other laugh.

My only niggle is they're very active quite sporty - for example, they're keen a snowboarder whilst the idea of throwing myself down a hill in the freezing cold doesn't appeal at all! I do enjoy exploring the outdoors but not in an adrenaline-inducing way like they do. I'm actually much more bookish and into writing novels, etc.

To be fair, I do know a couple of couples where the guy is into football or cycling, etc and the woman isn't. But not so much the other way around - can't think of a single sporty/active woman who isn't dating someone similar!

What do you think? Can it work? Any examples on these boards? Or would the lifestyle-incompatibility drive you apart in the end?

OH serious about running , me no way never
Thank god running is a solitary affair
It won't work if oh wants you to be sporty like him and compete against each other

I would like my partner to be a similar activity level to me. I'm an outdoorsy, sporty kind of person. I would not want to be with someone who didn't want to do anything or didn't understand my need to go out for a run / walk / cycle.
My ideal partner would be supportive and encouraging and we would do things together sometimes but not all the time.

DP is sporty, plays loads of different sports and watches them all on the TV, I could not be less interested 😂 the only sport I enjoy is swimming and guess what, he's not into that! But it is absolutely no issue, apart from when we're out shopping and he keeps having to stop to load the football/cricket/rugby scores 🙈

It depends how committed to sport the sporty one is, and whether that bothers you, but I think that's the same with any hobby that is not shared. I was the sporty one (pre horrible injury). I was into running and various other gym classes. I did a lot of classes early, before work, straight after work or at lunch time but I did also run or go to the gym at the weekend, so that took up a few hours on Saturday and Sunday. DP wasn't at all bothered, he was busy gaming. As long as you still make time for each other and have other things that you like doing together, I don't think it matters at all.

I run 5 times a week, while my new partner of 6 months will watch tv any time she not working.
That's ok - but i'd really like her to at least try jogging and come with me to parkrun events every Saturday when they start up again. She won't even contemplate it to try once even though I've assured her parkrun events are so supportive and social and I'm convinced she'd love the friendly atmosphere.

So I fear it's going to be an issue and she will resent time I'm going to spend most weekends once run races open up after Covid.

She has no hobbies whatsoever apart from watching tv.
I truly want spend time together doing anything outdoors, but she flatly refuses without even trying once.

I think it's going to cause issues.for us sadly.

I am mega sporty, I do triathlon and love fell walking. I train on average 12 hours a week and if I had my way I'd be up a fell every weekend.

DH has never set foot in a gym, hasn't even ran for a bus and will occasionally hike up a fell with me but under duress.

He much prefers tinkering in the garage with old cars and motorbikes.

BUT it's not about liking the same things so much as it is balancing the time you spend on them.

Today we both did our respective hobbies, tomorrow we are spending the day together.

Can you see a future where you each have time away from each other with different groups of friends or would you begrudge not seeing him for part of a weekend? That's what will make the relationship a success or not.

My best friend is in this situation. So he’s sedate and she’s active. They are very compatible with most things but he isn’t interested in walking weekends away or an afternoon row on the lake close by or a game of tennis. She does these activities with friends instead.