What is it with men? I've just been told this week the man who's been so in love with me the last few months was lying. He was messaging a married women he's been on and off with for two years. I thought it was all over way before he was speaking to me.
I offered him space as I felt he needed to think what he wanted. He basically dumped me as apparently my question had done him.
It's so easy to say drop him he's a player. But feelings can make us weak. It's not easy to switch off the feelings and it's so easy to think of the good times and get sad. It feels like two different people doesn't it.
The problem with phones and Facebook is its made it so easy to sneak about and flirt. But the evidence once sent is forever there and it controls you.
When I was struggling the other day I made a list of what I had Vs him. Then I did the pros and cons list. I filled the cons up easily. The pros were alot shorter now than they were when we first met.
I can only speak for myself and I can only focus on one man. All my love and time will go on the one I click with. So one of the hardest parts to accept for me was that someone else was turning his head. I wasn't enough.
Gut feelings are often correct. I've been in relationships where not once have I questioned their love for me. I felt secure and never anxious. The relationships where I have had those feelings have always been right. Because they are always messaging other women or lying and cheating. These men will always turn in around and say it's you with the issues. You are paranoid. You are insecure.
You don't feel happy. So it's time to walk away. Find someone who wants you sexually and doesn't need his ego stroked by someone else. Some men just can't be happy with one women and they break hearts.
Good luck. I hope you feel happier soon.