Anyone ever had a gut feeling that their partner is cheating?

[sarah8484]

I have a horrible gut feeling partner is cheating. The thought wakes me several times a night. Theres a few 'clues' but no hard evidence. Always on phone. Lock on phone that I don't know. Came home other night from work and jumped straight in bath which could be cheating could be he was dirty from work (didnt look it). Going out more but not to long, maybe 1-2 hours. Not a jealous or paranoid person. Im so laid back but something seems off. Sometimes he puts on this extra nice act which is just not him. Or maybe he's just being nicer. Want to confront him but know he will deny whether he is or isnt. But I just have a strong gut feeling....

Hope you're ok OP. Its worse when you're in limbo left wondering. Above all look after yourself.

This is a zombie thread

I know this is a zombie thread.

But I have to say for anyone else reading this thread do not put a tracker on your DHs car!!!! My DH tracked my phone because I am an alcoholic, he also logged into my bank to see where I was spending money. It was 100% for my own good and to stop me buying drink but the feeling of absolute betrayal was awful, to know he was stalking my every move. Even though most of the time I wasn't doing anything 'wrong'. He took my keys and cards off me for a while too, which was really annoying. I only forgave him because I knew he did it out of love. If he did it because he thought I was cheating I wouldn't forgive him, especially if it turned out your DH isn't cheating.

Back in 2005- masses of texting on phone bills to this young woman who worked with us- constantly nipping across the road to her house to fix issues on their computer, going swimming a lot in the evening and a couple of times I noticed towel and shorts seemed perfectly dry when he came back - I said nothing as had a 7 year old , worked together and no separate money !!! 11 years later quite by chance found a load of poems stuffed in a drawer all clearly written about this person. He had also recorded them as songs with him singing and playing. Confronted— was told it was just a crush/infatuation at the time , he was very upset I had found this stuff, and says it was all on his side. I’ve no idea if that’s the truth or not- I suspect not. I’ve remained married but have never felt 100% the same and am far less trusting. I wish I had dug around a lot more in 2005!! I think it was a one off and was a horrible time, his mum was dying, business had issues etc but he certainly wasn’t the person I 100% thought he was.

Zombie thread

I don't think it matters too much it being a zombie thread, it obviously still resonates. Sadly.