Ghosting

[SpideyMom]

Hey.

Sorry if this is the wrong place but can anyone make me feel better following being ghosted?

Been involved with a guy since October. And then all of a sudden nothing. Silence. And his online still watching my stories etc. But my last 2 messages have gone ignored. So thats where I leave it. But im not going to lie. I'm hurt, embarrassed and totally confused. Especially when I've been such an open book. I've been through so much hurt which he knows about and always assured me he wanted to show me how to he treated right. He knows I much prefer to he told straight about where I stand. But that being said I did not see this coming at all when it was only days ago he was asking to take me away (when things are better in the world of course).

So any words of comfort will be really nice right now.

Thanks in advance xx

[quote TC68]@SpideyMom
Thank you for your kind words - like you we were making plans to go on holiday, spent time with his daughter and my daughter and then 'silence' so he has not only ghosted me but my daughter too. He seemed genuine and the first man I have felt comfortable with (been single for years after an abusive relationship and not letting anyone get close) Very awkward as we live in a village - 6 doors apart. It has made me feel I can not go to the local shop so I drive to the next village I don't want to bump into him and have almost ghosted myself by trying to disappear but that is how he has made me feel. You sound lovely and so positive - they did not deserve the time we did give to them and I hope deep down they really regret what they have done and miss us ![/quote]
Oh that is terrible. What an absolute tool. On the one hand, our logical brains tell us that it is THEM, not us. They should be ashamed of their immature and stupid behaviour and we have nothing to reproach ourselves for, unless we have been a bunny boiler which is not the case with any of these normal women I am hearing from here! On the other hand there is this little niggle about "why am I not good enough for a proper explanation?" If I were you I would go to the shop with impunity! Call him out if he appears. He is a loser. We all known that deep down but it messes with our self-worth, doesn't it?

I have been love bombed and ghosted. These people are cowards. They have nothing better to do. In my case I never got as far as dating the bloke. He made excuses. Thinking back I doubt he ever fancied me but someone said if you get sent a photo of a man then the polite thing to o is to say oh lovely photo. I said not if I did not think so. I would ust say thanks and I was told its rude to say thanks and so I said anyting more is giing the person false hope

How are you op x

Happened to me numerous times with the same guy! Each time I was drawn back in and it happened again and again. The hurt was terrible. I was paranoid, constantly watching my phone wherever I was and heartbroken that he had read my messages and was online but couldn't give me the courtesy of a reply. Horrible shitty behaviour and very cruel, especially when you haven't got brilliant self-esteem. I will never forget what he did and I hope his balls drop off following a nasty accident!. A very wise mumsnetter said to me that it was his issues not mine and when I feel sad I think of that. In many ways it has made me realise that you couldn't have a relationship with these man-child's. Good luck, you aren't alone.

So sorry this has happened to you. It leaves you feeling confused and hurt. Its basically a cowards way of telling you (or not directly) that they have met someone else.