a little kinky question? Not a troll. Just a name change to cover embarrassment.

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at an Ann Summers last night, someone said she let her husband spank her before sex. Sometimes using his belt. Is this quite common-other girls didn't seem that surprised!?

It's one of the best known fetishes I'm sure.

PRobably reasonably common.

Really?
Is it a blokey fetish or both?

I would assume both.

Not into myself, but I wouldn't see why it would particularly be a blokey thing.

I think it still has the whole public boy and prostitute feeling to it for a lot of people.

Never known anyone who admitted to such behaviour. I'd have been surprised if I was there!

I think on the whole most people have fairly ordinary sex lives - mostly we're just grateful that we feel like it at the same time every now and then

Why do you think Ann Summers (both shops and catalogues) stock so many paddles, crops, whips etc! They aint for equestrian purposes that's for sure!

not surprised at all
like Madonna says,"a little bit of light hanky spanky"!!!

Dunno about the belt, that seems a bit harsh. Think most men like spanking though. I wonder why?

No not into it - must hurt!!!

Neither of us are really into that.

Well yes Jazz, I suppose it does if you have your partner lay into you, hammers and tongs, with a whip! However, I think that is more along the lines of domestic abuse!

I am not confessing to anything here (!).. but hypothetically, I believe the spanking culture to be more about "teasing" than causing any pain! That's more S&M I expect.. where the boundary between pain and pleasure is more blurred..

But rest assured MadameZ will along at some stage to put us straight, shedding light, not only on the finer art of whipping and spanking but doing so with a plethora of different partners! (Sorry Madame, couldn't resist!)

no....she definately didn't give the impression of abuse....she was lovin'it....!
Aslong as it's x 2 consenting adults....i suppose anything goes.

Unless you live in a hut in the Outer Hebrides with no TV, radio, or other contact with the outside world, or maybe if you were brought up by the Brethren or similar insular religious sect, I can't see how you could really get to childbearing age and be genuinely unaware that some people like to spank other people for kicks. It's, like, the most common sexual kink ever. The upper classes are particular fans.

I am a fierce feminist and wouldn´t have sex or do anything i dont want for someone else´s pleasure.
But i love spanking before sex, it gives me a boost.. I like the contrast between sensual cuddling and a firm spank...honestly! does it sound strange? I dont associate it with being abused or being like a pro. It shouldnt be done too hard and def no belts, just a hand.

btw we both do it to each other and love it...

Not my cup of tea at all.

I love being spanked

I have a pink leather paddle with a heart on it! PMSL

DP will not let me spank him tho

Lol, he would not be amused.

Im definatly the submissive in the bedroom.

Probably because I rule over everything else outside it

Dh had an ex that liked to be spanked with a fish slice.

I love being spanked! I'm a dominant submissive at heart (I tell him what I want him to do!)

Very very common! My DP loves spanking me, with just a hand or anything else.

Think the reason that men like it so much as it's always done in porn films. That tends to be the basis for lots of things men like..

A fish slice?! pmsl!!