Husband fantasising about my close friend! Do you move on?

[Zara9897]

DH is into role playing. Last night he said he likes the idea of me being the friend (role play) etc. He said he doesn't find her attractive at all and its just fantasising but I just don't understand this.

I am so upset by this and have felt down all day. He realised last night I got upset and has apologised and called me several times today apologising.

Has he explained himself? I once caught an exH walking over my best friend's Instagram photos. No hint of any sort of interest in real life, but his online history showed he was obsessed with her.

This reminds me of the John Smiths advert when Peter Kay is asked who his fantasy is and he announces it's Sarah from Accounts. I'm all for fantasies but one of your friends is a bit too close to home for my liking

Role playing to me is playing a “role” that isn’t a personal character

Sexy maid
Nurse
Police woman
Fireman

Etc

Not someone you actually know!

Unless maybe Tarzan & Jane
Even then those are fictional characters

Role playing to me is playing a “role” that isn’t a personal character

@gutful Role playing is pretending to be anything that's not you.

This particular scenario is grim tho.

@Zara9897 hope you’re okay x

how are you OP 🌺

He doesn’t respect you and definitely fancies your fiend. Bin him. Find better.

Not surprised you're hurt. It's deeply insensitive and shows a lack of awareness about how it's likely to make you feel. Of course you're now bound to wonder whether he has an attraction for your friend. It's normal to be attracted to others outside of marriage but he has crossed a line here.