Finding my partner's affection with our daughter, uncomfortable.

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Hello,

Basicially, my issues is. And I believe it is 'my issue'. My wonderful partner and dad to our daughter who is six years old is affectionate with her. No more or no less than any other healthy, loving father.

He kisses her, tickles her and holds her.

However, I find this extremely uncortable to warch and every fibre in my body is wanting to say 'stop'.

I feel it is wrong, but my logical brain knows it is not.

I was wondering if anyone could relate or had any advice?

P.S I am more than hundred percent sure there is nothing untoward going on. It is purely me overreacting. He is like I said. Wonderful and he just loves his daughter. However, I have problem with the way he shows it, I feel he shoudlnt kiss, cuddle and tickle. I am wondering why I have such issues, whether others have and what I can I do about them.

Thank you,

N

If you have the ick with your husband sounds like it’s related. You don’t want physical contact with him so seeing him cooing & cuddling with your daughter is repulsing you.

Maybe it’s because subconsciously you wouldn’t want him to be that way with you.

Or maybe you feel he is getting his needs met via your daughter which is getting your heckles up

Either way am not a big believer in repressed memories of sexual abuse. A person may be sexually abused & not remember specifics as they have blocked out the details. But generally I think most people could at least identify that they were abused in some way.

Is your daughter happy. My middle kid hates affection so at 4/5 this is weird, but oldest still so kissy/cuddly at 10 so it's ok for him but not for other.