I've just found out my husband had sex with someone else a few weeks ago. He was being dodgy with his phone so I demanded to look at it and I find messages from four separate woman on it. All from the site Seeking Arrangements (which meant he was paying them.) He was still in contact with 2 of them, one of them he had slept with. The other one I messaged and she obviously didn't know he was married. He said he was doing it because he feels so isolated in lockdown, changed jobs last year and hasn't actually met any of his colleagues yet, wanted an ego boost etc etc. He seems genuinely sorry and I believe him.
I want to get through this but not sure how I can forgive and forget. We are the love of each others lives and he knows how much he's fucked up and how much is at stake.
I don't want to hear all the stories of how I should leave him, he'll do it again, your friend's sisters neighbour forgave her husband and he just did it again etc. Can anyone offer any advice on how to get through this? And if anyone has experienced a similar situation and it's all worked out?