How important is ‘great’ sex in a relationship?

[Grossedout12]

In the beginning? Over time?

I’m not particularly sexual but I don’t think my boyfriend finds me super attractive.

@Grossedout12

Thank you all. I know what I need to do I've instigated breaking up a few times, he never wants to. I'm just worried about my biological clock ticking. We get along otherwise.

It's would be crazy to have a child with him. (Also not fair on any future child to saddle them with unhappy parents and a unkind Dad)

If you’re worried about your biological clock my advice is to really figure out how you feel through counselling, self-reflection etc. I spent my childbearing years with my ex and while I don’t hate him & try not to buy into black & white narratives, god it hurts now & god it’s lonely. I’m full of regret!

'He said he loves everything about me, except my body as I've put on some weight'

While everyone has the right to be attracted to what they are attracted to, can't help what they are attracted to and it doesn't make them a bad person, I have to say that includes anyone on the receiving end of this comment.

Afraid I really wouldn't want to have sex with someone who said this to me either. I mean seriously, why would you? Of course it'd knock your confidence. Of course it'd knock your self esteem.

And really, I can't help the fact I'm not attracted to people who feel this way towards their partners as soon as their partners change, as in, I genuinely find that an unattractive trait. I don't think people are bad for it, but I certainly don't find it an admirable trait, personally.

OP "we get along otherwise" I have tears in my eyes for you OP, on it's own your last sentence says that you are not in love with this man, that you are with him because you don't think you can do any better. But OP you can do so much better, please don't plan to spend the rest of your life with someone unless you have a deep love for them, and who you both like and respect enormously.
You don't have to have a partner to have a baby, but of course you need to do a lot of soul searching, and planning if you decide to follow that path. From my own experience, and many others, already having children would not stop you meeting the love of your life, at any time in the future.
I really have nothing to add about the behaviour and character of your present partner that most of the other pp's haven't already said, just please do not "settle" for him.