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Original poster

About to move in together - annoying things

125 replies

Thirtiesclub · 09/02/2021 22:26

Me and dp are about to move in together and already these little things annoy tf out of me.

The snoring
Smelly farting in front of me and finding it funny
Leaving all the bloody lights on downstairs even though hes last up, so i have to go turn them off .
Loud alarm in morning.
Swearing alot

Arghhhhhh

Obviously in comparison to our relationship as a whole and how happy he makes me these are small but they drive me insane.

Any tips from those more experienced?

OP posts:
Mrsbrownsgargoyle · 09/02/2021 22:29

Yes. Don't do it.

Merename · 09/02/2021 22:30

Talk calmly and straightforwardly about what you find a problem, and make reasonable requests for what you want compromise on.

Mum4Fergus · 09/02/2021 22:32

How long have you been together?

lottiegarbanzo · 09/02/2021 22:33

Those are a lot of annoying things.

Shadysback · 09/02/2021 22:34

If he's annoying you that much when you don't yet live together I'd rethink moving in!

Chunkymenrock · 09/02/2021 22:35

Oh god, sharing space with people is exhausting. Don't let it happen!

Original poster
Thirtiesclub · 09/02/2021 22:37

Lol i know, ive been on my own for a long time so im really noticing every small thing.

OP posts:
katieg03 · 09/02/2021 22:38

1 and 2 would make me not order moving boxes 🤣 however, mines started snoring recently and I've become a fab hand at poking him in the chest till he moves and rolls over. Something to do with his blocked sinuses... But man.... It makes me want to taser him 🙈

ScaredOfDinosaurs · 09/02/2021 22:40

Why do you have to go turn the lights off if he forgets? Surely he would just go - does he refuse? That's interesting and not in a good way.

Stonehopper · 09/02/2021 22:42

No one should move in with flatulent, sweaty snorers.

Blondie556 · 09/02/2021 22:42

What makes you want to move in with him? I think you might get a lot of 'don't do it posts" unless you also point out his good qualities.

Original poster
Thirtiesclub · 09/02/2021 22:43

@ScaredOfDinosaurs no once hes up thats it its bedtime, tonight for example he was asleep before i realised so i had to.

Is it laziness or hes oblivious?! Even left the tv on

OP posts:
rawalpindithelabrador · 09/02/2021 22:47

FFS. Don't move in with him. Those aren't small things. They show a real lack of respect for you.

AnneLovesGilbert · 09/02/2021 22:47

He doesn’t care for your comfort. He does things he knows upset or annoy you.

This stuff ends long term relationships and marriages. The resentment will kill the good bits.

Why are you considering living with him?

rawalpindithelabrador · 09/02/2021 22:47

[quote Thirtiesclub]@ScaredOfDinosaurs no once hes up thats it its bedtime, tonight for example he was asleep before i realised so i had to.

Is it laziness or hes oblivious?! Even left the tv on[/quote]
Laziness. C'mon.

Fairycake2 · 09/02/2021 22:49

[quote Thirtiesclub]@ScaredOfDinosaurs no once hes up thats it its bedtime, tonight for example he was asleep before i realised so i had to.

Is it laziness or hes oblivious?! Even left the tv on[/quote]
Pure laziness and believe me it will only get worse! Do yourself a favour and reconsider moving in together. He'll drive you mad

Beforethetakingoftoastandtea · 09/02/2021 22:50

@Thirtiesclub

Me and dp are about to move in together and already these little things annoy tf out of me.

The snoring
Smelly farting in front of me and finding it funny
Leaving all the bloody lights on downstairs even though hes last up, so i have to go turn them off .
Loud alarm in morning.
Swearing alot

Arghhhhhh

Obviously in comparison to our relationship as a whole and how happy he makes me these are small but they drive me insane.

Any tips from those more experienced?

I wouldnt find any of this attractive. So i wouldnt be moving in. Finding farts funny? Having no respect for you and leaving you jobs to do? No. Just no. Does he know what causes the snoring and is he doing anything to sort it?
VanGoghsDog · 09/02/2021 22:51

The snoring is a tricky one - two of my recent exes have been snorers. Both knew how annoying it was and neither were bothered if I woke them up to turn over etc.
And I'm generally pretty good at going back to sleep, so the only time it annoyed me was if I couldn't sleep, and to be honest when that happens everything annoys me.
But people don't snore on purpose so it's a tricky one.

One used to find farting hilarious. But a more recent one was so uptight about it he'd leave the room which meant he was up and down like a bloody yo yo during long TV shows etc.

Something between the two would be fine - accept they happen, pretend they don't, try not to do it if you can!

One ex would leave the house lit up like a Christmas tree and it drove me insane. He'd go out and leave every light in the house on, and a radio or TV on in every room, all doing different things. It was enough to give you a stroke. So disrespectful as well.

Anyway, they're exes. I can't put up with that stuff. I far prefer living on my own. That's my tip.

BusterGonad · 09/02/2021 22:51

How can you possible go to bed without realising you've left all the lights on and the television! Is it some kind of controlling thing? Sounds totally weird to me. An adult would actually not do this unless they had something wrong with them.

Mangofandangoo · 09/02/2021 22:52

Avoid. Sorry OPConfused

User0ne · 09/02/2021 22:54

Seriously? Wake the fucker up and make him do it. I'd get it if it was a one off but regularly? You could be living the rest of your life like this.

He should still be trying to impress you.

It sounds like he's testing the waters to see how much you'll put up with.

lottiegarbanzo · 09/02/2021 22:54

So when you're not there, he comes down in the morning to find all the lights and TV still on? He thinks that's normal?

Guessing he leaves stuff on when he goes out too? Forgets to hang up washing and finds it mouldy in the machine days later? Just doesn't notice anything that's not in front of his face or the subject of his current thought?

Original poster
Thirtiesclub · 09/02/2021 22:55

@rawalpindithelabrador the respect thing is how i see it too.

I wasnt brought up in a burping/farting household so i find it not only gross but rude.

One of my friends kids burps non stop and my friend just says its to do with how you were brought up, she doesnt find anything wrong with it. (I didnt pull her up, my lo did) haha

So maybe its how he was brought up and Doesnt see it as disrespectful?

Either way i hate it

OP posts:
TheChip · 09/02/2021 22:57

Don't move in with him

Stonehopper · 09/02/2021 22:58

But so what if he was dragged up, OP? Is this really what you find attractive? Did he burp and fart on your first date? If he had, would you have thought it was cute and been dying to see him again?

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