For what feels like ages now, most definitely years, DH gets to a Friday and almost without fail feels ill and then spends most of the weekend tired, exhausted and leaving me to deal with the DC.
Last year before lockdown I got him to Dr as thought he was depressed as angry alot, losing his temper and not wanting to engage. He was signed off work for a couple of weeks and then went back as normal. Dr says depression. He is now on antidepressants and they've made a difference. My problem is the weekends. They are almost always ruined in someway or stressful because he doesn't feel well. He either comes down stairs and constantly tells me how sick he feels or that I'm not asking how he is enough, or he stays upstairs and does nothing except watch videos etc. During the summer when the weather was better, of we went out he would walk at snails pace like he needed a Zimmerframe and I'd often have to leave him on a bench and go off with DC and come back for him later. When I ask him to have the kids for an hour or so he just says he doesn't want to or doesn't feel up to it. I've asked him to go back to the Dr multiple times. He has refused counselling. Refused couples counseling as we end up bickering alot, even though I have said it's about helping us communicate, not about separating.
I don't know what to do to help him or get him to help himself. It's been going on so long now that I'm losing sympathy when I can almost time like clockwork that having been fine all week, that Friday afternoon or Saturday he feels unwell.