Change of Name instead of getting Married.

[dantiasmith]

Hi ladies. We had to postpone our wedding last year due to COVID. I was so upset but we moved it a year so we could reassess the situation... however on Thursday we found out our venue has gone under and we’ve lost thousands of pounds. From viewing the liquidators information they company doesn’t have enough money so we hoping we pod for most things on credit card. We have decided we are gonna get married now and will see what the future brings. Has anyone changed their name to their partners? He’s not adverse to it at all. Which is great. Would you wear your wedding bands if the bride changed her name? Xxx

@Hoppinggreen

Wearing a ring and/or changing your name won’t give you the legal protection a marriage will Bit pointless really

This.

The more I’ve thought about this topic today since reading this post the more bizarre it seems to me. Marriage is a legal document. You want to play pretend at having a legal document? That’s just so strange. People imbue marriage with all kinds of romantic and sentimental meaning but it is a legal contract that binds you together in the eyes of the law and state. Any attempt to play pretend at that would be hollow. If it makes you happy to play pretend then that’s up to you but as much as I’d keep my mouth shut (because it’s really none of my business what grown consenting adults do with one another as long as they’re not harming anyone) I would privately think it very immature.

OP, don't worry about the names: just get married. PP have given you plenty of reasons why.

It's 'averse', not 'adverse', btw. But don't let my pedantry put you off getting married!

@bigbird1969 I know I could of given the children my name but I didn’t actually like my maiden name much and I wanted us as a family to have all the same name. It didn’t matter what name, just the same and his was nicer. That’s why I’m thinking about adding my dp’s name to my current one so I have the same name as our future child also