What is the worst thing your husband/partner has ever called you?

[Foward]

My stbxh is you effing c..t!

@EarringsandLipstick my ex also used to tell me that everyone hated me. It's absolutely soul destroying.

Not even my ex's have every called me names. I'm sorry to those whose had this.

Hypocritical c**t. Fucking stupid (that one screamed at me in a rage).

To me tho, it's the personal stuff that's more hurtful than the name calling. I don't feel so bad about being called a hypocritical c**t, but him taunting me that I have no friends because I'm so horrible is something I think about every day.

My husband has never called me anything horrible, even in jest.

An ex once called me paranoid and delusional because I was questioning behaviour that I later found out was him grooming a younger female family member.

A fucking bitch. By an abusive ex. I knew it was abuse and it was when I was trying to escape his stalking and abusive behaviour.

It struck me because I've never had that and will never have that again. It's disgusting.

The people that call each other cunt as pet names is really bizarre. I don't think it's funny or cute.

My DH had never sworn at me or called me a horrible name, I think once, when we were going through a difficult time he did say I had a bit of a 'negative attitude' - but that's the only criticism he has made to me. Neither of us are perfect of course, and I do think to myself 'what a dick' occasionally, and I am sure he thinks the same about me, but I would never use bad language or swear at him.

I have friends that call each other cunt on facebook. As an endearing term. It's weird and attention seeking.

My dh has never called me anything rude or derogatory.

My ex did, but that's why he's an ex. If anyone called me a cunt they'd be out the door

As a couple on each others pages

ExW used to use a lot of isolating gaslight type manipulation.

For example, 'our friends only come over because I'm so much fun, they find you boring'. 'Why don't you go and get a hobby or something and find your own friends?, you know all OUR friends are really just MY friends.'

When I ever did spend time out of the house with friends I got the cold shoulder for 48 hours although 'nothings wrong!'

Got the last laugh though because 2 years after she cheated and left, probably 80% of OUR friends are non contact with her and speak with or see me regularly 😂

It's tricky. At the time I just accepted the behaviour without really knowing it was abuse. I just assumed she was right. There's worse things in life than being called a cunt!

My DP has never called me a bad name

We never call each other anything, and have been married 17 years. I would consider it grounds for divorce if he verbally abused me.

He once called me a bitch when I had really got to him. Only once in 24 years though.

DH hasn’t ever said a unkind word to me. I’ve raised by standards since leaving my ex and wouldn’t tolerate name calling or shouting.

My ex regularly called me a fucking bitch but his favourites were black hole and brick wall. Though he was never helpful enough to explain what he meant by either. One of the last times he saw me we met in a public place and I told him I wasn’t coming back and would be filing for divorce and he told me I was making a terrible mistake and was a fucking brick wall - which was a handy reminder I was finally being extremely sensible. He was so loud and aggressive someone came up to ask me if I was okay and for your first time in many months I was able to say yes thank you, I’m great

[quote wewillmeetagain]@EarringsandLipstick my ex also used to tell me that everyone hated me. It's absolutely soul destroying.[/quote]
It is, isn't it @wewillmeetagain

No amount of rational thought helps ... you might know it's not true, but it runs very deep when the person who (supposedly) loves you & has chosen to live their lives with you, says something like this.

If something goes even a little awry in my relationships - family, friends - I immediately go back to that thought 'well of course - they don't like me'. 😔

but him taunting me that I have no friends because I'm so horrible is something I think about every day.

I'm sorry @irishoak

I understand totally & feel v sad many of us experienced this.

My therapist has spent a long time trying to show how this was all part of a pattern of abuse.

Dh & I call each other arseholes every now and again but only when we're messing around.

We are never purposefully nasty or hurtful towards each other.

"Fat fucking moron" when our daughter was about 9 or 10 days old, he had gone out and got drunk, and came home around midnight to shout at me for failing to breastfeed.

Yes he is an ex, and this was one of many, horrendously horrible things he said to me.

I can't believe what I'm reading here, I'm so sorry!

My partner has never called me anything nor really been negative towards me in a nasty way!

And as for being called a c*?! Jesus. No way!!

My ex told me, after 15 years together, that he didn't think he'd ever loved me and that kissing me was like kissing his sister. This was the day after he'd had sex with me, also. So that made me feel good.

My DP sometimes calls me a ridiculous human being, but it's said like a compliment and is always followed by a squidge.

I can't imagine calling anyone apart from some select politicians 'C*'

I do have a confession, and I hope it doesn't make me a terrible man.

A couple of years ago, I had been on a rare night out with a friend and was stumbling home at about 11pm. I texted my partner to let her know I'd be home soon. She put a scary mask on, and waited in the car out in our pitch dark driveway, just to jump out and scare the shit out of me as I unsuspectingly walked past.

In my moment of shock I said "Bitch." Not sure if she heard it because she was laughing a lot.

It was the first and only time. Promise.

I can't remember my exh of 20 years ever commenting on me negatively. (Or positively, either. Not massively communicative about that sort of thing.)

Current bf has teased me for being too easily pleased. Does that count?

I call DH a git when he’s being annoying. We never call each other anything hurtful. I’m sorry to anyone whose partner does.

Boring fucking cunt because I didn't want to give him a blowjob when he was drunk and had spent all evening being aggressive.

That wasn't the worst he did, but since we're only here to talk names, that's it.

Been divorced seven years. Now he only speaks to me like that in my bad dreams.

Sorry this thread is full of similar tales. You don't have to stay girls, you really don't. It took me 20 years, but I got out. You can too.

I have one "properly" abusive ex in my past and he usually went with "fat bitch" as he knew that was my pain point. Also he would refuse to let me out of bed to shower, then tell me that I stank. Would tell me in front of other people "You may have a massive bum but your arsehole's really tight, loosen up a bit will ya?"

Thankfully I had support from friends and family and was able to get away.

Another ex once called me a "stuck up toffee nosed hard faced bitch" but that was when we were splitting up and he was speaking from a place of pain so I didn't take it to heart.